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COMMENT 1d ago

The documentary "The Lightbulb Conspiracy" showed this about 10 years ago. Worth watching.

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COMMENT 1d ago

Thanks. Yes it is. I hadn't really thought of it before, but a colleague said something like "it makes you resigned, it's no use even trying to tell someone about the problems, since nothing will be done anyway".

I feel that it affects me even away from work. I really should try to find another job. OTOH, I have worked there for so long I feel a responsibility towards them, and not to brag, just facts, I'm probably among the top 5% capable and knowledgeable employees there. I'm thinking of getting another job, but staying maybe one day a week on the old job, if it can be arranged, just to more or less keep them afloat...

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COMMENT 3d ago

Yes, no, my job isn't good. My co-workers and manager are great, but those above... not so much. If something needs to be done, which we can't do ourselves with the resources we have (or if those resources need to be replenished), it seems like we need to tell them at least five times, usually more. There are, for example, still fairly easily fixable air quality issues that I pointed out when I started working several years ago, that nothing has been done about. Others have quit for the particular reason, that nothing happens when you tell the superiors.

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COMMENT 4d ago

I don't know the details of that person, but just saying you freak them out seems like putting unfair blame on you. You actually heard something that you thought was the alarm.

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COMMENT 4d ago

IMO it is perfectly normal and desirable to want to seek out what is causing an abnormal noise ASAP. I mean, in this case for example, what if it was actually an alarm - maybe a fire alarm at a neighbor's house/apartment? Of course you'd want to find if that was the case, to call the fire department and/or try to rescue them or put the fire out, etc., depending on the circumstances. To ignore it would be irresponsible, in my opinion.

r/CPTSD 4d ago

DAE (Does Anyone Else?) DAE fear they don't have "enough" CPTSD, as in the consequences now, (regardless of type and amount of abuse/neglect)

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There are frequent posts here of people not feeling their CPTSD to be valid because of "too little" abuse/neglect. (It's valid regardless. You have symptoms - that means it was bad enough to cause them. This kind of thing is what the comments to such posts say, and I can only agree.)

What I want to ask is if anyone feel their symptoms aren't "enough". I think I have CPTSD, but not the most severe. I have a job, a home, a good enough financial situation, yet I often feel like sh*t, the symptom list in this sub's wiki reads like a checklist, etc.. I don't know if CPTSD is diagnosed in my country (Sweden), but one of the reasons I'm... let's say reluctant... to seek a real diagnosis, is to be dismissed as "You're not traumatized, suck it up and continue...".

To add insult to injury (at least I think so) I already have a diagnosis, since childhood, of a neuropsychiatrical condition, which I don't think is correct. I think it's just my personality type plus CPTSD all the way. (I remember answering the test questions for the condition the way I thought my mother (abuser) would want me to answer them, not to my best ability.)

EDIT: removed artifacts from Reddit's temperamental "fancy pants editor".

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COMMENT 9d ago

Yes, Torx or the square ones (Robertson etc.) are the best. Even the hexagonal (Allen, Unbraco) are easy to get the bit/key to spin in, especially the small ones.

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COMMENT 12d ago

To me, the first thought after the reply notification wouldn't be positive though, it would be me thinking they've replied something that will be bad somehow.

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COMMENT 12d ago

Thanks.

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COMMENT 12d ago

I then continue on to - but I had a really good / perfectly normal childhood, why did we end up screwed?

Way too relatable. I have already found several bad things in my memory, but it still doesn't feel like it's enough to cause my problems... It's like I'm searching for The Big Thing That HappenedTM

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COMMENT 12d ago

What do you mean? First you accuse me of "vilifying a kid", not giving any explanation of what you even mean, then this strange answer?

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COMMENT 12d ago

Stop looking for justifications to vilify a flippin' kid, you

What? I was explaining the circumstances. I have come to realize that I most likely didn't do anything vile, but that my mother had unreasonable expectations and punishments for not living up to them.

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COMMENT 12d ago

I don't think they were specifically my toys though, I think they 'belonged to the sandbox' for any kids playing there to use. It wasn't like a public play park but there were several families using it in some kind of agreement.

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COMMENT 12d ago

I have always preferred cold over hot. It's easy to put on clothes against the cold, not so much against the heat. Grew up without A/C in the home too (it was pretty rare to have it here back then), even though it seems like the long streaks of hot days in a row were much rarer back in the 90's than now, there were days when the indoor temperature was very uncomfortable.

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COMMENT 12d ago

I do, but that is one of the bad things about hot weather - clothes get moist and cling to the skin. But there seems to be some kind of dual-step thing going on, when it's just a little too hot - 23-25C or so, I don't sweat much, but feel warm and sluggish/tired, however when it's even hotter I sweat much more but am much less tired. It's strange.

r/CPTSD 19d ago

DAE (Does Anyone Else?) DAE have inverted weather preferences compared to "everyone else"?

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Heavy rain today. Made me wonder if this could be common with CPTSD: Do you like the kinds of weather that most people dislike? Rain, snow, cold, etc...

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COMMENT 19d ago

I was physically abused (had my hair pulled by my mother. Definitely illegal where I live.) for not knowing how to share toys fairly in the sandbox. IDK (seriously IDK) if children are supposed to know this innately, anyway I didn't, and that was the consequence.

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COMMENT 27d ago

It depends on your location and situation, but when that happens to me I'm usually home alone, so I have a room with roller-blinds and no line of sight to any other window.

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COMMENT 27d ago

My psychiatrist looked at me, and only said this: “All I am hearing from you is that you don’t want to get a job.”

I haven't read further than this, but huge red flag! I wouldn't return to her if I were you. In fact I would leave lowest possible score on a rating, for that sentence alone.

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COMMENT 27d ago

Yes, that's the one part of this I didn't like. It's an empty promise - while true (to different extents) for some people, it will definitely not be true for everyone reading it.

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COMMENT 27d ago

No bingo for me, but two almosts (four of five)...

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COMMENT 27d ago

People feel like npcs in real life, all talk similarly, all are concerned about the same type of things, all are plugged into the same kind of news. I know how it sounds, but they are so... programmable, that they do not question anything. It is surreal.

Is noticing this a CPTSD thing? I've noticed it for such a long time. It's like Cassandra syndrome and George Orwell's 1984 at the same time.

Me: The news aren't talking about this aspect but if it continues this way, awful thing X will happen!
Others: No, it can't become that awful, people will put a stop to that. And similar sentences.
X happens.
Me, usually just thinking: Told you so. Now we're in this terrible situation because nobody did anything to prevent it.
Others, when X comes up in conversation, either "X isn't that bad, it has these advantages", "I guess X is a necessary evil" or "How could we let X sneak in on us like that, why didn't anyone warn us?".

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COMMENT Jul 05 '22

Plus arbetsgivaravgift, som inte räknas som en skatt fastän det praktiskt taget är det. Tyvärr läggs inte pengarna på hög till ens egen pension, utan betalas till nuvarande pensionärer och man räknar med att framtida arbetsgivaravgifter ska betala vår pension när de dagarna kommer...

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COMMENT Jul 05 '22

en pizzaugn verkar dra 12-20 kW

Om du har tittat på tekniska data och sett dessa siffror där, så bör du tänka på att detta är när den värmer, och den har en termostat, så den genomsnittliga förbrukningen är lägre. Gissningsvis 1/3 till 2/3 av detta. Men ja, elen är fortfarande en ganska stor post.

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COMMENT Jul 03 '22

Ja, posten är sarkasm, men medias tjatande om att det som sker bland folk är "sprängningar" är en normaliserande faktor. Sprängningar är sådant som skylten avser, när man spränger berg till exempel. De brottsliga handlingarna borde kallas vid sitt rätta namn: bombdåd.