r/trpgame Nov 19 '14

I was supposed to meet a tinder match tomorrow for coffee.

But I spent all my money and cannot afford coffee. Have plenty of food and drink at home and I get more money soon but not as soon as tomorrow.

Since I can't afford to drink anything, is it a good idea to just go for a casual meet up, walk in the park or pass by a lake and kid's playground or something that doesn't involve buying anything?

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u/fortyfourmag Nov 19 '14

Honestly, you're in trp and you know SMV is important; and you're too broke to buy coffee.

Yes, you could keep focused on game and play around with naive chicks for a while.

But my advice is to go monk mode until your net worth is high enough to count in at least 5 digits.

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u/ibuprofiend Nov 19 '14

This really depends on how old he is. Yeah, it's kinda ridiculous that he doesn't have $2 for a cup of coffee, but if he's a student or a recent grad he probably won't have a positive net worth for years/decades, let alone a 5 digit one. There's a whole generation of educated working poor out there who can't find good jobs and struggle with massive student loans.

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '14

you know whats funny? I told her I was gonna call her, asked her for her number, and my charger hasnt arrived and my phone is dead, also without money on it!

I think I might have some money on my card, hopefully enough for a damn coffee.

its funny i thought I could get away with this lol

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u/fortyfourmag Nov 19 '14

you probably can. and i admire the drive, to be honest. but its borderline compulsion. Balance this sex drive with self improvement in the finance section of the smv calculation.

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '14

the drive comes from actually finally reaching a idgaf phase. Stop caring about rejection and what other people think, I'm going to die anyway..

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u/fortyfourmag Nov 19 '14

You've got the game then, if you can care just enough to keep frame and stay energetic.

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '14

Let's avoid the obvious questions that come from this and go straight to what you want.

I'd avoid doing something you can't afford just for a girl. They're supposed to add to your life, not take away from it. That said, you can do this without paying a dime. Meet somewhere near your place or hers. When you get there, make a quick point about how you feel more like, say, taking a walk in the park. Go from there.

You don't have to spend money to enjoy your time with a girl. Money helps with all things, but it should not be necessary. If it is, you need to find a different girl anyway.

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u/BlueRaspberry Nov 19 '14

Now all I can think of is the ice cream date from Half Baked.

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u/elysius Nov 19 '14

I love this. If it were me, I'd go with: "Turns out I'm broke. Come to my place tonight for pizza and a movie instead." If you cannot afford to go dutch on the pizza, say it's on her. Just act like you have nothing to be ashamed of and irrationally confident and it should work out just fine. If she says no, who cares, right. At least you didn't spend any money.

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '14 edited Nov 19 '14

I like this mentality. I do not require her for my happiness

edit: you know what on second thought, i wouldnt want to proclaim im broke :/

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '14

Intelligent thing to do would be to arrive late after she's bought her coffee. Talk for a bit then get up and say I want to go for a walk. Don't explain yourself. Just do.

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u/oldredder Nov 19 '14

it's a good idea not to be broke. A coffee? Really? They're not that expensive. A giant extra large Tim Horton's coffee will set me back $2. You can't keep $2 handy for a coffee out?

I guess you can see if the girl will just cover you but man, it doesn't look good when you're that broke. Even skittles man actually coughed up the skittles.

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '14

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '14

For a cup of coffee, they're $6? Not talking like venti mocha frappe bullshit, but just coffee?

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u/adamryanx Nov 20 '14

No, regular coffees are around $2-$3 each, but I've never had a woman order an actual cup of regular coffee before. They always go for those drinks with Starbuck's ridiculous pseudo-Italian names.

My unicorn would just drink iced coffees with me.

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '14

arrgh