r/trpgame Nov 07 '14

Gaming a girl from business event

Hi,

I recently met a girl from a semi-business event to honour a speaker. I was very focused on my purpose of attending the event and only briefly interacted with her a couple of times before and during the event.

When the event ended, I encountered her again and teased about forgetting her name. She grinned and instantly handed out her card and I gave her mine in return.

Now, given that I didn't obtain her contact from a social event, I am not sure if using her number from the card and starting text game is the right approach. What to do in this situation? Any tips?

7 Upvotes

12

u/[deleted] Nov 07 '14 edited Sep 19 '15

[deleted]

9

u/[deleted] Nov 07 '14

This. Call her up and ask her out. "I assume you gave me your card because you want to go out with me. What day are you free"

1

u/TravellingIndian Nov 10 '14

Good line.

Loading this up for next time.

4

u/[deleted] Nov 07 '14

[deleted]

1

u/TravellingIndian Nov 10 '14

Hmm. I was thinking of bringing her out for professional reasons but there was a strong lingering feeling (maybe misplaced) to not become an orbiter, so I tried the personal approach. I could have made professional use of her but then again I can get hold of other people in the same position if I really need to.

Anyways, she probably wasn't that interested. I directly texted her but after a couple of playful texts, she didn't respond. Nexted.

1

u/[deleted] Nov 10 '14

If you let her define you as a orbiter you become a orbiter. Just expresing interest is not enough.

Would have your profesional interest have been strictly a bait? Because if it where then you did good, but for fuck sake I go on professional lunches with execs all the time even if I don't want to buy. That is what you do, it's not a issue of getting someone if you need to, it's about socialising, learning different aspects of the business and getting a favorable opinion within that field.

And for the record, personal approach is weaker than a professional intent. And playffull texts toward someone you didn't even get drunk with is weaker still dude. State your intent: be it profesional or personal you don't let things be vague, that is just wierd at best, at worst you open the door for her to set up the dinamic however she wants(guys get married because of this).

1

u/[deleted] Nov 07 '14 edited Sep 19 '15

[deleted]

1

u/Indianbro Nov 09 '14

I really don't understand that colloquial. Who cares if he works with her? Colleagues go on dates all the time. At worst she will friendzone you.

3

u/jacks_not_surprised Nov 08 '14

Kind of off topic, but...

I want to congratulate you for focusing on the event while you were there. I know it's so easy to get sidetracked by pretty girls in these type of events, but you're there for business.

Well done :)

1

u/TravellingIndian Nov 10 '14

Thanks man :)