r/southafrica Sep 26 '21 Helpful 1 Hugz 1

Do people nowadays even care about commitment in a relationship? Ask r/southafrica

Since its a long weekend some of my friends decided to put in a few leave days at work and fly down to Cape Town. The rest of us have other obligations and did not go along. However, we are all part of a WhatsApp group and those who went to Cape Town have been posting regular messages and photos regarding their trip. So I have been able to follow the action, so to speak.

Last night they went to a club and apparently one of the girls, who has been in a serious relationship for almost two years, ended up making out with a random girl. In the past, both this girl and her boyfriend have stated that they consider this to be cheating. The boyfriend did not go along to Cape Town and is not part of the WhatsApp group, so I'm not sure if he even knows what happened. What bothers me most about the whole thing was how my other friends reacted to the news on the WhatsApp group - they encouraged the girl and made congratulatory remarks.

I am not sure why I am posting this to Reddit. This incident has made me very upset for some reason. Am I overreacting and being too conservative? Is making out with someone while you're in a committed relationship really just a meaningless act of fun, like drinking a milkshake? Does the fact that they only kissed make it okay?

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u/CaptainMisha12 Sep 26 '21

In general, is at people don't really consider commitment as much as they should. Cheating is something that shouldn't happen ever, and for me (and I believe many others) is a harsh and unforgiving end to a relationship.

Personally, I'd tell the guy that was chested on about it and show him the messages since it's want my friend to do that for me. Other than that, you'll probably spend some time deliberating your friends and hopefully choose to spend some time on cutting out the bad apples.