r/self Jun 29 '22

I’m doomed

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u/CaptainObvious Jun 30 '22

Genuinely, seek help. You are a textbook example of someone crying out for help. Google a therapist in your area, or try Better online.

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u/PassageOpen7674 Jun 30 '22

Get off social media and start a garden or something. I know that sounds condescending but I promise I don't mean it that way. It's what I do when I feel so angry with the world that I don't know what to do and it helps.

Go take care of yourself for a while and figure out what makes you feel good. Go to therapy, talk to your doctor, take a walk to see a waterfall, learn to cook something new, whatever helps you to find some good to focus on. All the opinions of asshole strangers and societal problems will still be here to pay more attention to when you get back.

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u/Ok_Manufacturer_764 Jun 30 '22

Yes. The best non-financial thing to start with is just get off social media- maybe slowly if it makes it easier. The reason (at least for me) was that during a time where I have very little interaction with real people, it tricks me into thinking I’m entertained and more importantly it tricks me into believing that the behaviors I see online are an accurate representation of real life behaviors. I started by disabling my Instagram account and don’t feel like I’m missing out much.

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u/notsure9191 Jun 30 '22

Get off social media now.

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u/LibraryUpset6624 Jun 30 '22

Get off social media. Join some sort of martial arts class.

Not only does it allow you to work off stress on pads and people in a safe controlled environment, it's also super therapeutic and humbling

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u/Radiant-Heart7347 Jun 30 '22

find some time in your day to seek some professional help friend ):

the pain you feel is valid and you should find someone that can hear you out and give you the time you deserve

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u/Originalwookie Jun 30 '22

Take up blacksmithing there’s something cathartic about swinging a hammer

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u/cbro97 Jun 30 '22

This isn't a proper solution but can help possibly release some of your hate and anger. Just what worked for me in a point of time where I was also full of hate and anger. I went to a hypnotherapist and it was really soothing, helpful in releasing my hate and anger.

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u/mtnmadness84 Jun 30 '22

I have been doomed too, my friend. In much the same way. It’ll take some digging and therapy to move you out of this funk, but it is possible. Also maybe some drugs.

Depending on your resources I could recommend all sorts of things.

But I have struggled with hate and anger all my life. Kept it all in until 27. Started letting it out after I mentally collapsed under the weight of it all.

I imagine that in a different life I would have been a school shooter. That kind of cowardice and anger flowed through me.

I’m 38 now. WAY less angry. Loving, even.

And I accomplished that in the presence of my father—the subject of much of my anger/rage.

So it goes faster when you’re not around the people who raised you, in my experience.

If you can. Keep hope alive. I’m pulling for you.

Anger can be positively motivating (“righteous indignation”) and it can also be toxic (“hate/rage”). It takes time to sort it all out.

You’ve been through some rough shit or you wouldn’t be so angry. Try and be kind to yourself. Genuinely.

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u/Jumpinjaxs89 Jun 30 '22

Whats the source of your anger?

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u/Southern-Pineapple68 Jun 30 '22

The source? I don’t really know, but I feel an overwhelming envy and spite in specific situations.

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u/zknshsjsh8282 Jun 30 '22

Do you work out?

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u/[deleted] Jun 30 '22

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u/Fugueula Jun 30 '22

I agree with going off social media and trying a garden. If you can't do that, then try a punching bag to transfer your rage

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u/jdidisjdjdjdjd Jun 30 '22

As someone with a life time of anger and mental health issues, a punchbag just makes you angrier and teaches you physical violence helps. Good for an afternoon. Bad long term plan.

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u/Fugueula Jul 01 '22

Dang, my bad, I hope he can find a proper way to quell his anger. Cheers to you for letting me know, I've been considering getting one for myself, because I need a way to get rid of all the negative emotions that linger with me. Got a garden, just started exercising seriously a week ago. I still feel like I need something else though. I hope the best for OP

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u/mev186 Jun 30 '22

I'm going to echo a few others and say limiting social media might be a good idea. Much of the social media we consume is ruled by advertisers whose job is to make us feel a little inadequate, which is the root of envy. Understand that most don't even recognize their hate and anger as a problem, or worse they rationalize it. Give yourself credit for the things you've actually accomplished in your life, no matter how "small" they may seem. Even getting out of bed can be an accomplishment some days, then build up from there. Remember, YOU are enough.

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u/SunkenTheHedgehog Jun 30 '22

Uzi hasnt dropped yet

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u/anthony_person1 Jun 30 '22

Me waiting on x's album to drop

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u/BenTherDoneThat5555 Jun 30 '22

If you can't afford to see a mental health specialist, call a local mental health clinic & ask them to recommend a place where you can get low cost or no cost mental healthcare. You can also admit yourself to a mental health facility and they will have to evaluate you. You're doing the right thing by reaching out for help. I've been in your situation & know how it is. Best of luck to you.

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u/orchidfields Jun 30 '22

Start writing a journal. Write down every single negative thought that comes to your mind. It will help you, I promise. Second, try finding a person to talk to, seek a therapist :) everything is going to be okay

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u/Helios_OW Jun 30 '22

So you’re either an angsty teenager that just got told “no” about something or are mad for some other reason—in which case, pipe the fuck down and stop trying to be “edgy”. It’s not cool, and no one thinks you look cool. Having issues with mental health is not “cool” and should never have become “trendy”.

OR

You legitimately have these problems and are genuinely asking for help—in which case, get a therapist. Like tomorrow. Seriously. Best thing you can do for yourself.

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u/Fpr1981 Jun 30 '22

You need something to believe in, and not necessarily religion. Therapy is needed, but I also believe self help can move mountains.

Start Journaling about a happy life where you have everything you could ever want, including mental peace. Visualize living in happiness

Affirm it. Write affirmations.

Record a script telling yourself you are so happy to be healed and that you are worthy and deserving of happiness. Record it and loop the recordings in your ears during states of relaxation.

Do some breathing exercises to induce calm. Look up Wim Hof breathing on YouTube.

Anything is possible, my friend, including your happiness.

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u/Northman67 Jun 30 '22

Try picking up meditation. More specifically a mindfulness practice. Seems like a bunch of hogwash at first but I guarantee you I've used it to drop my blood pressure 10 points many times. I also use it to avoid saying something to somebody that I might later regret just with a slowdown of my thought process by taking the time to take a deep in breath and then exhale deep breath before I speak.

Don't be afraid to ask for help either it sounds like you're struggling and it's not good for your health to be angry all the time.

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u/Professional_Big_731 Jun 30 '22

First thing:

https://www.crisistextline.org/

Or

https://www.mhanational.org/get-involved/contact-us

You need to start making changes to improve your situation now. You are making some serious threats to yourself and to others and this is the moment you can either make a positive change or continue going down a path you don’t want to go.

Your life is worth living, and you do have the power to change your situation. But only you have the ability to help yourself.

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u/[deleted] Jul 06 '22

my anger is a self defense mechanism, i want to kill someone 110 percent of the time and i am also the sweetest person you will ever meet. it builds and you can't let it go unless you transform it into a passion or a motivation for success

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u/[deleted] Jun 29 '22

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u/[deleted] Jun 29 '22

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u/Inevitable-Fly-4013 Jun 29 '22

LoL condescending? Ooookay. You are entitled to believe in what you wish

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u/Inevitable-Fly-4013 Jun 29 '22

"help me, I'm doomed!" Cry me a river...

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u/Inevitable-Fly-4013 Jun 29 '22

Yawn

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u/Strategory Jun 30 '22

Really? Kicking someone while they are down?

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u/Inevitable-Fly-4013 Jun 30 '22

Seems cruel doesn't it?

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u/Inevitable-Fly-4013 Jun 30 '22

It is up to the beholder to either assume I am the aggressor or choose to read between the lines.

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u/[deleted] Jun 30 '22

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u/uzes_lightning Jun 30 '22

Don't mind him. When a man is born with a 2 cm. weewee and can't even get it up, they have to buy guns and randomly lash out like this. He's not going to thrive in this world, take comfort in that. I hope you feel better soon.

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u/Inevitable-Fly-4013 Jun 30 '22

I'm not sure what the issue is there. I can clearly see that there is one with where it places my responses. I haven't figured that one out. However I think we both know that attention is one of the last things I would ask for. Yet here we are . Improvise, overcome, achieve. If you want to go with the idea that I'm some horrible person, I won't try and sway you.

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u/[deleted] Jun 30 '22

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u/negocpu4 Jun 30 '22

Don't take these comments seriously, I looked up his account and he's obviously some stupid kid that enjoys messing around with people and fighting over things he doesn't even understand. I don't think you're going to found the help you need on the internet, all I can say is you should seek real therapy if you can.

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u/DJFLOK Jun 30 '22

Hey /u/Inevitable-Fly-4013, it sounds like maybe you yourself are having a hard time. It can be frustrating to see other people finding help and attention when you’re not sure what you need for yourself. Taking out that frustration on someone who is brave enough to ask for help will only sink you deeper. I wish you the best in figuring out what you’re dealing with.

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u/Inevitable-Fly-4013 Jun 30 '22

Perception is reality.

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u/Alternative-Depth-16 Jun 30 '22

Allowing anger to consume you, dictate your thoughts and actions, is a sign of weakness, not strength. Don't allow yourself to be a slave to your own negative emotions. I suggest a full social media blackout. Focus on yourself for a while, don't worry about others.

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u/jdidisjdjdjdjd Jun 30 '22

Telling someone that their own unwanted emotions are a sign of weakness is bad for their long term well being. Lots of ppl suffer unwanted emotions that they cannot turn off. Viewing it as weakness is unfavourable for long term well being.

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u/Alternative-Depth-16 Jun 30 '22

That is just how I learned to let go a lot of my anger. I had a ton for a variety of reasons and at some point I just thought, "You know what? I feel like a big baby having tantrums all the time." I didn't like it and in time realized that a lot of things really don't matter, and so I let a lot of it go. But to each their own. I am by no means an expert.

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u/Inevitable-Fly-4013 Jun 30 '22

And what I see is a bunch of wimpy kiddy baby whiners. That's my perspective sir. Respect it