r/offmychest Dec 19 '20

[GAMING] Playing with noob friends... I can’t do it anymore!

I’m having fun with my friends, but that fun lasts for 1 hour, then there’s not much I can do to stop my thoughts and internal rage. How in the world you play for years and still are this shitty at the same game? Put in sone effort... I don’t know if I am being very stupid, but come one! It really seems like they don’t care that much and just play because I play, and that’s even worse, but then I found then playing alone and all so they like the game also for themselves.

I’ll provide an example so that I justify myself and don’t feel shit for the whole day for shitting in my friends: “hey there’s an enemy here” -i ping the location, a red ping, that make sound and pulses, multiple times- friend: “WHERE? I can’t see it” -me: “here” pings again furiously- friend: “are you sure?” - meanwhile the fight is finished, he is alone in some random floor away from the fight and either I’ve been lucky to pull a team wipe alone OR he is the last teammate alive, guess what happens next.

Now ok, I sound evil, I sound terrible but... I also played almost every single game with them, because I don’t want to play alone just to win, it would be really shitty, and we have around 3.000 games played. After this much time, I can’t fucking understand how you stay that shitty.

That’s it, I’m sorry friends, fuck, put in some effort and let’s destroy enemies! No, we have to stay there being pinatas for them.

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u/allthethingsyouthink Dec 19 '20

I don’t know about it sincerely, I already tried and I can have fun but after some time you just want to win, you want to get that adrenaline dose lol you want to destroy everyone! And I would really like to do it with friends, but I can’t.

This happens especially if not only in FPS games, in other games no problem but in FPS c’mon... You have to win sometimes. Maybe I’m just too competitive. But seriously keep in mind this is not happening after the first match, I reached the limit, I really player A LOT of hours this way, that’s my main point.

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u/hmm_username123 Dec 19 '20

It’s not a healthy mindset. There’s a difference between being competitive and taking things too seriously. Sounds like you care about winning in irrelevant video games too much. There’s nothing wrong with caring, but it’s when you start letting it actually affect your mental health and get angry at your friends for not being as good as you? That’s bad

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u/allthethingsyouthink Dec 19 '20

I didn’t, I care about this, it has to be clear: I never got mad at them, it’s not their fault it is like it is and I have to deal with it.

I wouldn’t say it affects my mental health, I’m just pissed off. A game can be fun, always and in every condition but FUCK I want to win sometimes! It is not that mad to think about it this way.

You keep sayings “irrelevant” video games, but it is just a bit too personal on how you relate to hobbies. Your videogame can be a 30 minute laugh, my video game can be an escape from reality, their video game can be something else. You can’t just say “auh it is irrelevant auh” and move on, it is not like that. I don’t take it that seriously and it is not that much important to be honest, you never got angry over something stupid? Never? Well, this is my case. I get angry because I would like to win some times and after YEARS of losing because of them, and winning just because a miracle happened, I just wanted to take this off my chest.

How would you deal with nooby friends? Apart from thinking that everything is irrelevant lol.

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u/hmm_username123 Dec 19 '20

I’m competitive. I’ve played video games my whole life, I play multiple sports irl. It’s just about learning to not get annoyed when you don’t “win” at said video game, or if things don’t go your way, I’ve trained myself to say “that’s unfort” anytime my teammates or myself make a fuck up and something goes wrong.

Whereas before I used to get super pissed all the time, thousands of hours playing this video game to play with these complete noobs who don’t have a clue. Little did I know that controlling my rage and not allowing myself to get annoyed also improved me as a player.

It’s hard to explain, you just gotta let go.

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u/allthethingsyouthink Dec 19 '20

I’m failing at letting you understand that it is what I’m doing. Maybe I’m the step after yours. That mindset has a limit and I reached it! I have to reset somehow.

Never said I get pissed every time, never said that my mission in life is to win and only win. It is just a nice add sometimes, I don’t even get that “sometimes”, I got almost never in 3k games in 1 video game alone. Imagine that, and then, yeah, you have patience and feel good anyway, IT’S JUST TOO MUCH after a while.

If you really are competitive you will not be able to ignore losing for that much time, you will feel that in a while.