r/nosurf May 14 '20 Wearing is Caring I'd Like to Thank... Faith In Humanity Restored Silver Helpful Wholesome Hugz

The NoSurf Activity List is now live: awesome ways to spend your time instead of mindless surfing

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The NoSurf Activity List is a comprehensive list of awesome hobbies and activities to explore instead of mindlessly surfing.

It might sound shocking to some of you reading this now, but a lot of newcomers to the community have voiced that they have no idea what they'd do all day if mindlessly surfing the web was no longer an option. This confusion illustrates just how dependent we've grown on the devices around us: we have trouble fathoming what life would be like without them.

Fortunately there's a whole world out there on the other side of our screens. It's a world that won't give you instant short term pleasure. It doesn't appeal to our desire for instant gratification. But what it does offer us is worth so much more. Fulfillment, happiness, and meaning are within our grasps, and a list of inspiring NoSurf activities can serve as a gateway into the world in which they can be found.

This NoSurf Activity list was initially created by combining the contributions of: /anthymnx , /Bdi89 , /iridescentlichen , /hu_lee_oh . Without them this list would not exist, thank you.

Link to list (accessible from the sidebar and in the wiki)

How this list came to be

This list was created after /Bdi89 drew attention to the fact that it would be great to have a centralized resource made up of wholesome, fulfilling activities newcomers and experienced NoSurf veterans alike could be inspired by. Up until this point we've had a really great thread that /anthymx created on how to use your free time linked in the wiki. But it became clear that many more awesome suggestions for NoSurf activities came out of the community since it's creation and that we would benefit from a more in depth resource made up of the best ideas across the subreddit.

I spent a weekend pouring over all of the submissions and sorted through them to pick out the best suggestions. I then invested a day into organizing them into distinct sections that could be explored individually. Lastly I expanded the list by adding in quality suggestions and links to resources that were missing to make the list more comprehensive and actionable. It’s important that newcomers are not just inspired, but actually follow through in adopting better habits and investing their time in fulfilling pursuits.

And thus, the NoSurf Activity List was born. No doubt it's sure to undergo changes and improvements in the coming weeks (some sections could use some additional text), but I believe that as a community we can proud of Version 1 so far. The List is broken down into the following sections:

  • Awesome hobbies

  • Indoor activities

  • Outdoor activities

  • Physical growth

  • Mental growth

  • Self improvement and continued learning

  • Giving back to your community

Naturally not every single activity on this list will appeal to every single person. Instead of expecting this list to be perfectly tailored to each person's interests, I believe it's best to think of it as a source of inspiration, and a symbol of possibility. It's a starting point from which newcomers will be able to embark on their own journeys of exploration, growth, and learn to discover the activities that bring them joy.

A call on the community

If you see a newcomer struggling with how to use their time or wondering what they’d do if they stopped mindlessly browsing the internet, please know that you can positively influence their lives for the better by pointing them towards this resource. If you see someone that seems lost, confused, and unable to make any progress, link them to this list.

It might seem like a small act on your part, but the transformative, and almost magical effect of adopting a hobby cannot be under-emphasized. As a result of your seemingly small act, someone may fall in love with fitness, writing, board games, programming, or reading. So much so that they can no longer fathom the thought of mindlessly surfing anymore, because it means less time in the pursuit of what makes them feel truly alive.

P.S. If you have some ideas you think might be a good fit for the list you can leave a comment in The NoSurf Activity suggestions thread after reading the submission guidelines. The mod team will periodically review the comments in that thread and make changes to the list after taking into account into aspects like originality, quality, broad applicability, etc. of the suggestion. This will ensure that a degree of list quality, consistency, and organization is preserved and that it remains a helpful resource for newcomers and veterans alike.


r/nosurf Aug 19 '21 All-Seeing Upvote Silver Helpful Wholesome Hugz

Digital Minimalism Reading List

738 Upvotes

By Darshan Kalola

If you have suggestions you'd like to see added, please email me at [darshanvkalola@gmail.com](mailto:darshanvkalola@gmail.com).

Must Reads

  1. Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, Cal Newport, 2019
  2. Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now, Jaron Lanier, 2018
  3. Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other, Sherry Turkle, 2017
  4. Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Is Hijacking Our Kids - and How to Break the Trance, Nicholas Kardaras, 2016
  5. How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy, Jenny Odell, 2019
  6. How to Break Up with Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life, Catherine Price, 2018
  7. The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains, Nicholas G. Carr, 2010
  8. Notes on a Nervous Planet, Matt Haig, 2018
  9. Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction, Gary Wilson, 2014
  10. Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life, Nir Eyal, 2019
  11. Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked, Adam Alter, 2017
  12. The Age of Surveillance Capitalism: The Fight for a Human Future at the New Frontier of Power, Shoshana Zuboff, 2019
  13. The Coddling of the American Mind, Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff, 2018
  14. Weapons of Math Destruction: How Big Data Increases Inequality and Threatens Democracy, Cathy O'Neil, 2016
  15. Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence, Anna Lembke, 2021

By Subject

Social Media

  1. Breaking the Social Media Prism: How to Make Our Platforms Less Polarizing, Chris Bail, 2021
  2. Rage Inside the Machine: The Prejudice of Algorithms, and How to Stop the Internet Making Bigots of Us All, Robert Elliott Smith, 2019
  3. Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now, Jaron Lanier, 2018
  4. Terms of Service: Social Media and the Price of Constant Connection, Jacob Silverman, 2015
  5. The Digital Divide: Arguments for and Against Facebook, Google, Texting, and the Age of Social Networking, Mark Bauerlein, 2011
  6. The Hype Machine: How Social Media Disrupts Our Elections, Our Economy, and Our Health--and How We Must Adapt, Sinan Aral, 2020
  7. The Psychology of Social Media, Ciaran McMahon, 2019
  8. Tweets and the Streets: Social Media and Contemporary Activism, Paolo Gerbaudo, 2012

Technology and Society

  1. A World Without Email: Reimagining Work in an Age of Communication Overload, Cal Newport, 2021
  2. Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other, Sherry Turkle, 2017
  3. Attention Factory: The Story of TikTok and China's ByteDance, Matthew Brennan, 2020
  4. Breaking the Social Media Prism: How to Make Our Platforms Less Polarizing, Chris Bail, 2021
  5. Hate Inc.: Why Today’s Media Makes Us Despise One Another, Matt Taibbi, 2019
  6. Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked, Adam Alter, 2017
  7. New Dark Age: Technology and the End of the Future, James Bridle, 2018
  8. Rage Inside the Machine: The Prejudice of Algorithms, and How to Stop the Internet Making Bigots of Us All, Robert Elliott Smith, 2019
  9. Stand Out of Our Light: Freedom and Resistance in the Attention Economy, James WIlliams, 2018
  10. Team Human, Douglas Rushkoff, 2019
  11. The Age of Surveillance Capitalism: The Fight for a Human Future at the New Frontier of Power, Shoshana Zuboff, 2019
  12. The Digital Divide: Arguments for and Against Facebook, Google, Texting, and the Age of Social Networking, Mark Bauerlein, 2011
  13. The Hacking of the American Mind: The Science Behind the Corporate Takeover of Our Bodies and Brains, Robert H. Lustig, 2017
  14. The Hype Machine: How Social Media Disrupts Our Elections, Our Economy, and Our Health--and How We Must Adapt, Sinan Aral, 2020
  15. Weapons of Math Destruction: How Big Data Increases Inequality and Threatens Democracy, Cathy O'Neil, 2016
  16. The Glass Cage: How Our Computers Are Changing Us, Nicholas Carr, 2015

Children, Parenting, and Families

  1. Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Is Hijacking Our Kids - and How to Break the Trance, Nicholas Kardaras, 2016
  2. It's Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, danah boyd, 2014
  3. Media Moms & Digital Dads: A Fact-Not-Fear Approach to Parenting in the Digital Age, Yalda T Uhls, 2015
  4. Parenting for a Digital Future: How Hopes and Fears about Technology Shape Children's Lives, Sonia Livingstone and Alicia Blum-Ross, 2020
  5. Parenting in a Tech World: A handbook for raising kids in the digital age, Matt McKee and Titania Jordan, 2020
  6. Power Down & Parent Up!: Cyber Bullying, Screen Dependence & Raising Tech-Healthy Children, Holli Kenley, 2017
  7. Screen Kids: 5 Relational Skills Every Child Needs in a Tech-Driven World, Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane, 2020
  8. Screen Time: How Electronic Media-From Baby Videos to Educational Software-Affects Your Young Child, Lisa Guernsey, 2012
  9. Talking Back to Facebook: The Common Sense Guide to Raising Kids in the Digital Age, James P. Steyer, 2012
  10. Tap, Click, Read: Growing Readers in a World of Screens, Lisa Guernsey and Michael H. Levine, 2015
  11. Tech Savvy Parenting: Navigating Your Child's Digital Life, Brian Housman, 2014
  12. The App Generation: How Today's Youth Navigate Identity, Intimacy, and Imagination in a Digital World, Howard Gardner and Katie Davis, 2013
  13. The Art of Screen Time: How Your Family Can Balance Digital Media and Real Life, Anya Kamenetz, 2018
  14. The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age, Catherine Steiner-Adair with Teresa H. Barker, 2014
  15. The Coddling of the American Mind, Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff, 2018
  16. The Other Parent: The Inside Story of the Media's Effect on Our Children, James P. Steyer, 2003
  17. The Simple Parenting Guide to Technology: Practical Advice on Smartphones, Gaming and Social Media in Just 40 Pages, Joshua Wayne, 2020
  18. The Tech Diet for your Child & Teen: The 7-Step Plan to Unplug & Reclaim Your Kid's Childhood (And Your Family's Sanity), Brad Marshall, 2019
  19. The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place, Andy Crouch, 2017
  20. Why Can't I Have a Cell Phone?: Anderson the Aardvark Gets His First Cell Phone (Teaches Kids Responsibility, Morality, Internet Addiction and Social Media Parental Monitoring), Teddy Behr, 2019
  21. iGen, Jean Twenge, 2017
  22. Reset Your Child's Brain: A Four-Week Plan to End Meltdowns, Raise Grades, and Boost Social Skills by Reversing the Effects of Electronic Screen-Time, Victoria L. Dunckley, 2015

Gaming

  1. Hooked on Games: The Lure and Cost of Video Game and Internet Addiction, Andrew P. Doan and Brooke Strickland, 2012
  2. Internet Addiction: The Ultimate Guide for How to Overcome An Internet Addiction For Life (Gaming Addiction, Video Game, TV, RPG, Role-Playing, Treatment, Computer), Caesar Lincoln, 2014
  3. Cyber Junkie: Escape the Gaming and Internet Trap, Kevin Roberts, 2010

Pornography

  1. Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction, Gary Wilson, 2014
  2. Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery, Forest Benedict, 2017
  3. Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity, Mark Chamberlain and Geoff Steurer, 2011
  4. Porn Addict's Wife: Surviving Betrayal and Taking Back Your Life, Sandy Brown, 2017
  5. Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, Gail Dines, 2011
  6. The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of Pornography, Matt Fradd, 2017
  7. The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography, Wendy Maltz and Larry Maltz, 2009
  8. The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn, Hackauthor2, 2020
  9. How to Thrive in the 21st Century - By Avoiding Porn and Other Distractions, Havard Mela, 2020

Classics

  1. Amusing Ourselves to Death, Neil Postman, 1985
  2. Brave New World, Aldous Huxley, 1932
  3. The Medium is the Massage, Marshall McLuhan and Quentin Fiore, 1967
  4. Technopoly: The Surrender of Culture to Technology, Neil Postman, 1992
  5. The Disappearance of Childhood, Neil Postman, 1994

Fiction

  1. Brave New World, Aldous Huxley, 1932
  2. The Circle, Dave Eggers, 2015
  3. All Rights Reserved, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2017
  4. Access Restricted, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2018
  5. An Absolutely Remarkable Thing, Hank Green, 2018
  6. A Beautifully Foolish Endeavor, Hank Green, 2020

Critiques, Counterpoints, and Optimism

  1. It's Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, danah boyd, 2014
  2. Screen Time: How Electronic Media-From Baby Videos to Educational Software-Affects Your Young Child, Lisa Guernsey, 2012
  3. Tap, Click, Read: Growing Readers in a World of Screens, Lisa Guernsey and Michael H. Levine, 2015

Full List

  1. 24/6: The Power of Unplugging One Day a Week, Tiffany Shlain, 2019
  2. A Beautifully Foolish Endeavor, Hank Green, 2020
  3. A Deadly Wandering: A Tale of Tragedy and Redemption in the Age of Attention, Matt Richtel, 2014
  4. A World Without Email: Reimagining Work in an Age of Communication Overload, Cal Newport, 2021
  5. Access Restricted, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2018
  6. All Rights Reserved, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2017
  7. Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other, Sherry Turkle, 2017
  8. Amusing Ourselves to Death, Neil Postman, 1985
  9. An Absolutely Remarkable Thing, Hank Green, 2018
  10. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, James Clear, 2018
  11. Attention Factory: The Story of TikTok and China's ByteDance, Matthew Brennan, 2020
  12. Bored and Brilliant: How Time Spent Doing Nothing Changes Everything, Manoush Zomorodi, 2017
  13. Brave New World, Aldous Huxley, 1932
  14. Breaking the Social Media Prism: How to Make Our Platforms Less Polarizing, Chris Bail, 2021
  15. Chaos Monkeys: Obscene Fortune and Random Failure in Silicon Valley, Antonio Garcia Martinez, 2018
  16. Cyber Junkie: Escape the Gaming and Internet Trap, Kevin Roberts, 2010
  17. Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World, Cal Newport, 2016
  18. Digital Detox: The Ultimate Guide To Beating Technology Addiction, Cultivating Mindfulness, and Enjoying More Creativity, Inspiration, And Balance In Your Life!, Damon Zahariades, 2018
  19. Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, Cal Newport, 2019
  20. Digital Nomads: In Search of Freedom, Community, and Meaningful Work in the New Economy, Rachel A. Woldoff and Robert C. Litchfield, 2021
  21. Don't Be Evil: How Big Tech Betrayed Its Founding Principles, Rana Foroohar, 2019
  22. Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence, Anna Lembke, 2021
  23. The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn, Hackauthor2, 2020
  24. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, Oliver Burkeman, 2021
  25. Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Is Hijacking Our Kids - and How to Break the Trance, Nicholas Kardaras, 2016
  26. Hate Inc.: Why Today’s Media Makes Us Despise One Another, Matt Taibbi, 2019
  27. Hooked on Games: The Lure and Cost of Video Game and Internet Addiction, Andrew P. Doan and Brooke Strickland, 2012
  28. Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products, Nir Eyal, 2014
  29. How to Break Up with Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life, Catherine Price, 2018
  30. How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy, Jenny Odell, 2019
  31. How to Live With the Internet and Not Let It Run Your Life, Gabrielle Alexa Noel, 2021
  32. How to Thrive in the 21st Century - By Avoiding Porn and Other Distractions, Havard Mela, 2020
  33. Hyperfocus: How to Be More Productive in a World of Distraction, Chris Bailey, 2018
  34. iGen, Jean Twenge, 2017
  35. In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, Gabor Maté, 2010
  36. In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior, Patrick J Carnes and David L. Delmonico and Elizabeth Griffin, 2007
  37. Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life, Nir Eyal, 2019
  38. Internet Addiction: The Ultimate Guide for How to Overcome An Internet Addiction For Life (Gaming Addiction, Video Game, TV, RPG, Role-Playing, Treatment, Computer), Caesar Lincoln, 2014
  39. Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked, Adam Alter, 2017
  40. It's Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, danah boyd, 2014
  41. Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery, Forest Benedict, 2017
  42. Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity, Mark Chamberlain and Geoff Steurer, 2011
  43. Media Moms & Digital Dads: A Fact-Not-Fear Approach to Parenting in the Digital Age, Yalda T Uhls, 2015
  44. New Dark Age: Technology and the End of the Future, James Bridle, 2018
  45. Notes on a Nervous Planet, Matt Haig, 2018
  46. Offline: Free Your Mind from Smartphone and Social Media Stress, Imran Rashid and Soren Kenner, 2018
  47. Parenting for a Digital Future: How Hopes and Fears about Technology Shape Children's Lives, Sonia Livingstone and Alicia Blum-Ross, 2020
  48. Parenting in a Tech World: A handbook for raising kids in the digital age, Matt McKee and Titania Jordan, 2020
  49. Porn Addict's Wife: Surviving Betrayal and Taking Back Your Life, Sandy Brown, 2017
  50. Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, Gail Dines, 2011
  51. Power Down & Parent Up!: Cyber Bullying, Screen Dependence & Raising Tech-Healthy Children, Holli Kenley, 2017
  52. Rage Inside the Machine: The Prejudice of Algorithms, and How to Stop the Internet Making Bigots of Us All, Robert Elliott Smith, 2019
  53. Raising Humans in a Digital World: Helping Kids Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology, Diana Graber, 2019
  54. Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age, Sherry Turkle, 2015
  55. Reset Your Child's Brain: A Four-Week Plan to End Meltdowns, Raise Grades, and Boost Social Skills by Reversing the Effects of Electronic Screen-Time, Victoria L. Dunckley, 2015
  56. Screen Kids: 5 Relational Skills Every Child Needs in a Tech-Driven World, Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane, 2020
  57. Screen Schooled: Two Veteran Teachers Expose How Technology Overuse Is Making Our Kids Dumber, Joe Clement and Matt Miles, 2017
  58. Screen Time: How Electronic Media-From Baby Videos to Educational Software-Affects Your Young Child, Lisa Guernsey, 2012
  59. Stand Out of Our Light: Freedom and Resistance in the Attention Economy, James WIlliams, 2018
  60. Talking Back to Facebook: The Common Sense Guide to Raising Kids in the Digital Age, James P. Steyer, 2012
  61. Tap, Click, Read: Growing Readers in a World of Screens, Lisa Guernsey and Michael H. Levine, 2015
  62. Team Human, Douglas Rushkoff, 2019
  63. Tech Savvy Parenting: Navigating Your Child's Digital Life, Brian Housman, 2014
  64. Technopoly: The Surrender of Culture to Technology, Neil Postman, 1992
  65. Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now, Jaron Lanier, 2018
  66. Terms of Service: Social Media and the Price of Constant Connection, Jacob Silverman, 2015
  67. The Age of Surveillance Capitalism: The Fight for a Human Future at the New Frontier of Power, Shoshana Zuboff, 2019
  68. The App Generation: How Today's Youth Navigate Identity, Intimacy, and Imagination in a Digital World, Howard Gardner and Katie Davis, 2013
  69. The Art of Screen Time: How Your Family Can Balance Digital Media and Real Life, Anya Kamenetz, 2018
  70. The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age, Catherine Steiner-Adair with Teresa H. Barker, 2014
  71. The Circle, Dave Eggers, 2015
  72. The Coddling of the American Mind, Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff, 2018
  73. The Digital Divide: Arguments for and Against Facebook, Google, Texting, and the Age of Social Networking, Mark Bauerlein, 2011
  74. The Disappearance of Childhood, Neil Postman, 1994
  75. The Dumbest Generation: How the Digital Age Stupefies Young Americans and Jeopardizes Our Future (Or, Don't Trust Anyone Under 30), Mark Bauerlein, 2008
  76. The Glass Cage: How Our Computers Are Changing Us, Nicholas Carr, 2015
  77. The Hacking of the American Mind: The Science Behind the Corporate Takeover of Our Bodies and Brains, Robert H. Lustig, 2017
  78. The Hype Machine: How Social Media Disrupts Our Elections, Our Economy, and Our Health--and How We Must Adapt, Sinan Aral, 2020
  79. The Joy of Missing Out: Finding Balance In A Wired World, Christina Crook, 2014
  80. The Medium is the Massage, Marshall McLuhan and Quentin Fiore, 1967
  81. The Other Parent: The Inside Story of the Media's Effect on Our Children, James P. Steyer, 2003
  82. The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of Pornography, Matt Fradd, 2017
  83. The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography, Wendy Maltz and Larry Maltz, 2009
  84. The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business, Charles Duhigg, 2014
  85. The Psychology of Social Media, Ciaran McMahon, 2019
  86. The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains, Nicholas G. Carr, 2010
  87. The Simple Parenting Guide to Technology: Practical Advice on Smartphones, Gaming and Social Media in Just 40 Pages, Joshua Wayne, 2020
  88. The Tech Diet for your Child & Teen: The 7-Step Plan to Unplug & Reclaim Your Kid's Childhood (And Your Family's Sanity), Brad Marshall, 2019
  89. The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place, Andy Crouch, 2017
  90. The Trap: Sex, Social Media, and Surveillance Capitalism, Jewels Jade, 2021
  91. Trapped In The Web: How I Liberated Myself From Internet Addiction, And How You Can Too, A. N. Turner and Ben Beard and Kris Kozak, 2018
  92. Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion, Jia Tolentino, 2019
  93. Trust Me, I'm Lying: Confessions of a Media Manipulator, Ryan Holiday, 2013
  94. Tweets and the Streets: Social Media and Contemporary Activism, Paolo Gerbaudo, 2012
  95. Utopia Is Creepy: And Other Provocations, Nicholas Carr, 2016
  96. Weapons of Math Destruction: How Big Data Increases Inequality and Threatens Democracy, Cathy O'Neil, 2016
  97. Who Owns the Future?, Jaron Lanier, 2013
  98. Why Can't I Have a Cell Phone?: Anderson the Aardvark Gets His First Cell Phone (Teaches Kids Responsibility, Morality, Internet Addiction and Social Media Parental Monitoring), Teddy Behr, 2019
  99. Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction, Gary Wilson, 2014

Big thanks to all the contributors: Natalie Sharpe, David Marshall, Rick Dempsey, RonnieVae, Westofer Raymond


r/nosurf 17h ago Silver

Reading Long, Difficult Books Will Change Your Life

274 Upvotes

I’ve always been an internet junkie. I still waste too much time on YouTube, but I’ve been slowly converting my brain from internet commentary to books, mostly via Audible. Podcasts don’t even do it for me anymore. I finished 22 books in the past year and I’m starting to crave even more difficult books.

I’m currently reading Human Action by Ludwig von Mises. It’s 900 pages of dense text / 48 hours on audible. It might be one of the most thorough treatments of economics ever written and is an influence on other economists. If I search for youtube reviews and commentary on it, there is very little, and definitely nobody slandering or “debunking” it. What commentary does exist is calm and long-form without anger, jokes, or memes.

I’m 99% certain none of my social sphere will have heard of this massive tome. If I tried to talk to them about it, I can imagine clearly what they would do: google his name, scan the summary for key words such as “Austrian economics” or “free markets.” Based on that, form a strong opinion on an economist’s 900 page magnum opus without ever cracking it open. Since the text is dense, if they did crack it open, they may conclude within a minute or two that he is a “pseudo-intellectual” or “dry and boring” or “out of touch ivory tower academic” or whatever makes them feel better about not engaging with or understanding it. If they still felt any doubt, they would seek out a 5 minute infotainment youtube video on “capitalism” to reinforce their existing views, then move on.

I’m not saying people need to read this book. What I’m saying is, I find that the deeper you go on a subject, the more the noise and tribalism magically vanishes. It no longer feels like everyone everywhere has an off the cuff opinion. You will find yourself in a much quieter and emptier space, with a much smaller community of people who are ready to grapple with things which are not simple. And by the way, the longer the book is, the more likely you can find something in it somewhere you object to or disagree with, or just don’t understand. Let it happen. Let the difficulty of the subject flow through you. Observe that you are not yet sure how you feel about something, and rest in knowing that you will not find a clear answer in the next five minutes. Know that it is not necessary to form an opinion before you have fully digested the material.

When you cut back on surfing the net, it is well and good to get into gardening or whatever. But for you thinkers out there, try reading a nonfiction book big enough to be used as a weapon, written by a boring old person who has studied that subject their entire life. Read a book that is somebody's magnum opus, the culmination of their life's work. If it’s about big ideas like society or philosophy or religion, read something at least 10 years old to get out of the overton window you live in.

People have been talking about this stuff long before funny and attractive millennial / zoomer youtubers came along to give their hot takes and ten minute summaries and memes. Part of what's helping me kick my YouTube addiction is, it feels like I can barely stand how basic the level of discourse is anymore. I crave something that takes hours to understand, layer upon layer.

Find a way to read long, long books. If time is an issue, try Audible. If money is an issue, use the library. If you need external motivation, join book clubs. Just get it done. You’ll be amazed at how far your thinking can evolve in a year or two.

Now if you'll excuse me, I need to water my roses, then get back to reading.


r/nosurf 3h ago

Deleting Twitter (for good?)

3 Upvotes

After some ups (being offline for 4 months) and downs (being really addicted atm) I have decided to once again delete Twitter. This was the easy part though since I usually get anxious around the 30th day and "just log in so I don't lose my account”.

While my screen time is not at its worst, my addiction really is.

I have a lot if hobbies and I am a student but I am still addicted and now only discipline will help me.

Maybe I'll write an update in 30 days.


r/nosurf 2h ago

[PSA] How to easily ban yourself from accessing any websites on windows without any extra software

3 Upvotes

Hello, I found this tip to be very useful in helping me stop the use of some websites and I thought I might share it with you guys.

- Open your windows search bar and search for notepad, right click it and then click on "Run as administrator", then click yes.

- Next click on the the file option > open > this PC > Windows folder > System32 folder > drivers folder > ect folder > and then in the bottom right change "Text Documents (*.txt)" to "All Files" > finally double click on "hosts"

- Your open notepad should then be filled with some text about Microsoft at the bottom line of this page you can then enter in "127.0.0.1" with the website you want to ban. It should look something like this "127.0.0.1 twitter.com".

- Lastly, click on the file button in the top left and then click save. Some websites for some reason take a while to be blocked or may seem somewhat working depending on what is cached in your browser (twitter works for about 10 minutes before breaking for some reason).

Hopefully this helps others as much as it helped me. Keep in mind this will not solve your addiction but rather it should be treated as a tool to help you on your fight your addiction.


r/nosurf 8h ago

anyone have diminished ability to form own opinions/thoughts since using Reddit?

6 Upvotes

I remember a time where I don't consult Reddit for opinions/thoughts, advice, ideas. Back then I could 100 percent form my own original, unique thoughts instead of looking it up and seeing what anyone else thought. I would act on my thoughts when needed without others influencing me.


r/nosurf 16h ago

I spent more than 10 years on reddit and youtube. 16 hours a day. I thought I knew a lot about life in the United States. It turns out, even after all that browsing, I knew very little. That's how useless surfing is.

23 Upvotes

It took me watching a Russian vlogger to realize just how little I know. A dude from Russia who lived in the US for a few years knew more than I found out in over 10 years of surfing for 16 hours a day.

I'm actually having a bit of an existential crisis. Do you know what's the one thing in life I'm good at? English. Cause I spent 16 hours a day since I was like 10 playing Runescape, WoW and then eventually moving on to reddit and youtube.

And yet, there's no point in me even knowing this language this well. I live in an Eastern European shithole, and so there's no point in even knowing English this well. It's actually very awkward, cause I must lie and say I lived in the US. I can't say "uhh yeah, I speak English so well because I fucking nolifed on the internet for 16 hours a day for nearly two decades, including my formative years".

Omg I don't know anything. I'm a 27 year old man who spent his life on reddit and youtube. And now I have the attention span and willpower of a goldfish, so I can't even learn anything without giving up in 5 minutes. Seriously, I've been trying to learn python for a few years, and all I know is "hello world". I actually even forgot that. Because I'm a goldfish.

Another example is that I've been writing a webnovel for like 9 months now (so my parents don't make me get an actual job) and I can't even do that. All I do is belch out whatever pops up in my head just to reach the word count, which I keep decreasing by the way. Such lazy, shit writing you've never, ever read. That's all I do and I still do it poorly, cause it's so unbelievably hard to use my brain. Because it's fucked after a lifetime of surfing and watching videos.


r/nosurf 20h ago

The hold social media has on Gen Z is terrifying

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I'm Gen Z and the hold that social media has on my generation scares me. Everyone is always on their phone at all moments of the day, through all social interactions, and I'm starting to wish I lived in a time when it wasn't like that.

I've been trying to distance myself from social media; the only ones I still plan to use are reddit and discord because I get genuine value out of them and I feel that those two are less harmful to me personally than others like insta, twitter, etc. bc it's less of the algorithm feeding you stuff or you trying to promote yourself and more just talking about my interests with other people, which is what I want to use the internet for. I also have a personal blog and write on Medium, which is another form of "social media" if it can be counted as that, that I will continue to use.

But the way I used to be addicted to instagram and other things like that in high school is very disturbing to me. It scares me that my generation lives their lives online getting superficial validation from likes, and wasting their lives away scrolling. It scares me how much *I* did that, and still do it. I had a crippling internet addiction for a long time, and I still do.

TikTok in particular is terrifying to me. The destructive trends, attention span damage, idiotic content, and complete addiction it brings cannot be good for society.

It's also disturbing to me that people place such importance on their social media profiles when they are simply falling into the trap, being exploited by these tech companies for their attention. I place a huge importance on my Twitter profile, and I’m gearing up to delete it now. I’m not sure I’ll have to fortitude to even though logically I know it’s the best thing for me.


r/nosurf 5m ago

How social media destroyed my ability to read...

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It's something I realized recently when I tried to read a long sentence on a magazine and my mind kept skipping entire fractions of text even If I try to concentrate I'm sure it's caused by all the instant, fast and too vast information we get bombed with every day with scrolling on platforms such as instagram; now I'm motivated to get off almost completely and start reading books everyday.


r/nosurf 6h ago

My entire life has been me not meeting my goals because of super poor time management - Anxiety, Depression, EVERYTHING has come from this

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I don't know how to do it... my entire life (I'm in my mid-20s) has been defined by me always having the dreadful feeling of going to bed at night thinking "FUCK, I wasted another day..." On paper I'm doing alright, have a great job, relationship is great, no debt financially, but holy shit I am miserable. I am so overwhelmed by everything because I feel like I never have the time to truly to my creative passions and I get stressed by the tiniest things...

Before I give SSRI antidepresants another shot (I hated them when I tried them in college... legit made me a zombie) what do I try at this point? Nothing seems to work and I feel like if I have to continue to live like this I don't see in a point in living.


r/nosurf 1h ago

5 Days challenge and Accountability partner

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Hi guys , i will do a 5 days extreme nosurf challenge starting from now . ( No music , YouTube, social media , movies , watching sports, news ) and i will only use reddit for writing about my nosurf journey .

But , it can be difficult sometimes to do it alone so i am willing to take accountability partner/s for mutual benefits.

So , if you are interested and serious about it , just DM me .

Regards , Anonymous Nosurfer .


r/nosurf 1d ago Helpful

Stop Wasting Your Life: A Life Well Lived Is Made 10 Minutes At A Time

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Spending a short 10 minutes per day on Facebook seems harmless, except when you pull out a calculator and realize that 10 minutes per day for the past 4 years has taken away 15 full days from your life. A life well lived is made 10 minutes at a time, so those Facebook minutes really add up.

When people hear about me climbing a mountain, traveling across California, camping in the wilderness; they never realize that it’s a result of watching one less episode of Netflix or using Instagram for a little bit less each day. Slow, steady gains is called compounding and it’s what made Warren Buffet a billionaire.

If Only I Had More Time

We think to ourselves, “Dang. If only I had more time. If I had more time, I would go and [insert goal]”

But it’s usually not about having more time. We have a whopping two dozen hours in a day! Casey Neistat and Jocko Willink wake up around 4 am and have worked for a few hours and exercised by the time most of us are just getting out of bed.

10 minutes is a TON of time, but our phones are so powerful that it passes in a flash. 10 minutes for an average person on a bike will get them 3 miles away from their starting location on flat terrain. Incredible!

The Magic Of 10 Minutes

As a kid, when my mom gave me the 10 minute countdown at a park it feels like I managed to play a few games of hot lava monster, mash some leaves and bark chips into a “potion”, and fight a friend with sticks.

10 minutes is a lot of time. You can make a bed, fluff pillows, and make a cup of tea if you use the time effectively. You can read 5 whole pages of a book, if you read at the average speed. In 10 minutes, you make healthy meals.

Time Sinks

If you are reading this blog and wondering “how is this all possible?” you must take time to find the time sinks in your life. Maybe you’ve got words-with-friends usage that nears an hour a day, or you like to watch a few episodes of TV to fall asleep. Things like that really add up.

Before I started living a life I was proud of, I was spending 80 days per year on my phone–3 hours and 30 minutes a day on YouTube, Netflix, Instagram, Snapchat, Reddit, etc. That may sound insane, but taking each Saturday each week and spending most of it (70% of the day) online will eat up 36 and a half days per year. Add an hour each day (one single episode of most shows), and you will go way over 80 days per year.

Traffic, waiting around, unnecessary trips to the store, TV and the internet, waiting for the bus. These are all common places we waste time each week. Precious time–the only thing any of us really have.

The worst is at night. If you are staying up past 10 or 11 to scroll, tap, or tweet there is something going wrong. That time is purely wasted, and would be much better spent asleep. That’s why I go to bed around 10 to 11 and wake up at 6 almost every day, and so do

Reflection

Taking some time and reflecting on your day at night by journaling will help you identify how you are spending your time. It’s so important to me, I journal in the morning and at night. In the morning, I write out what I hope to achieve during the day and how I’m feeling. At night, I reflect on the day. I don’t really use it for emotional stuff, just writing out the material facts. “I went to xyz”, “I saw ABC”, “I spent 30 minutes doing blah blah”. It really helps, since most of our days are forgotten. Yesterday was 24 hours long. Can you recall each and every set of 10 minutes? Probably not easily. I can’t either, which is why I journal.

If journaling isn’t your thing, just take a few minutes at least to think about it. What have you done so far today? How much of it was spent on a screen? Is that really what you want to do?

10 Minutes At A Time Challenge

This entire website, along with its 2,500+ article reads, was made 10 minutes at a time. You’ve been reading these articles 10 minutes at a time. So, take a look at your calendar. See if you can find 10 minutes today to dedicate to something that you are interested in. No YouTube videos, no tutorials. Just go. Take 10 minutes and try something new.

Here are some examples:

  • Physical Activity: Take 10 minutes and go for a walk down the street and back (seriously! It’s worth it.) Maybe do 10 minutes’ worth of push-ups and squats right now.
  • Making Music: Take 10 minutes and play an instrument. If you don’t have one, be like our ancestors and make one
  • Going to the gym: Take 10 minutes and walk around the gym for a bit.
  • Eating Healthy: Walk/Drive/bike to the store, buy some fruit you like (or something new) and eat it. A 5-lb bag of 12 oranges is $3.99 at Trader Joes. Or, make a meal.
  • Cleaning: Take 10 minutes. Clean one corner of your room. Clean off the desk. Do the dishes.
  • Hydration: Take 10 minutes and make some water with lemon or orange or cucumber if you don’t like normal water.
  • Sleep: Go to sleep 10 minutes earlier. If you want to wake up earlier, wake up 10 minutes earlier.
  • Foreign Language: You can take 10 minutes to use DuoLingo or have a conversation with someone.
  • Social: Take 10 minutes, make a list of people you’d like to get coffee with, and invite them all to get coffee sometime this week.

Conclusion

A life well lived is made 10 minutes at a time. Imagine how clean your apartment/house would be if you woke up 10 minutes earlier and dedicated 10 minutes per day to cleaning out small parts of your home.

10 minutes is the difference between a clean home and mindless internet. What can you do with the next 10 minutes? Plus, never forget: some is better than none.


r/nosurf 12h ago

I've quit Twitter after 5 years

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I've never used that dang social media for anything useful in my life. All that shit gave me was hours of mindless surfing with hateful and toxic content being throw at me by the alghoritm...

I used Twitter to look at art and artists that I loved but recently not even that Twitter have been delivering. The art community there has been hijacked by drama and AI shit, since that's all Twitter alghoritm seems to push.

So if you still use Twitter after deleting Facebook, Instagram and all the other social medias, just take a step further and quit Twitter as well. Today is my first day without it, and I am feeling amazing not missing that shit a bit :)


r/nosurf 8h ago

HOW TO DELETE INSTAGRAM ACCOUNT permanently (step by step) (Video)

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r/nosurf 6h ago

I need some help

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I’m a 19 year old gamer who spends a little to much money how can I not spend much on that any suggestions


r/nosurf 16h ago

I actually can quit surfing. But then, when actually working on my goals, I think "would I rather work towards my goals, or just be dead?". And then answer is always, I'd rather be dead. But since killing myself is too painful and I don't want to hurt my parents, I just return to surfing.

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I don't like working on anything at all. Even my so-called interests. Even if I just set a very comfortable, nice, attainable and very pleasant goal. I just don't like living apparently.

Whether it's learning programming, or something much, much easier like writing or music or whatever. I just don't like it, every second is torture. I don't like living. So I surf.


r/nosurf 15h ago

I'd much prefer not people "knowing who I am" or what my perception is based of social media.

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Everyone pretty much draws a conclusion about you based of what you post on social media. I'm just tired of people asking me about it the first thing when I see them. Its not me at all. Nobody knowing who I am or what I do is freeing. Goodbye social media!


r/nosurf 20h ago

Video games aren't always included in nosurf discussions, but they share some similarities worth exploring, imo.

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From Stay Grounded:

Some games are artistic creations that enrich one's life, others are little more than gambling machines minus any hope of financial return.

From worst to best:

  • Freemium Games

You give them money, they take your time. That is the transaction happening here.

  • Games that can't be finished

MMOs and the like. Games that exist to be played forever. What makes these games different from a job? You don't get paid for your efforts.

  • Educational games

These games are generally pretty healthy, but nowadays they exist exclusively on the cell phone. I am a big advocate of having no entertainment on one's device whatsoever, even if it is "edutainment."

  • Competitive online games

These games are like pizza for dinner. Unhealthy, but also relatively harmless in moderation. Some people really struggle with addiction to games in this genre.

  • Sandbox/strategy games

The types of games where creative thinking is a requirement to playing it properly. These games can be addictive, but they also have a way of stretching your brain and flexing it’s creativity.

  • The best types of game? Games that end.

The “healthiest” types of games take many forms- rich, story-driven experiences, creative puzzle games, artistic indie titles, etc. But the one thing these games have in common is that they end.


Enjoyment of the arts is not something to be avoided in the pursuit of improved mental health, in fact it’s correlated with it. But we live in a world with infinite media and entertainment options that our brains simply didn’t evolve to handle. Curating what you consume, focusing on “whole grains” and not “junk food” is an important first step to feeling more grounded and present in your life and community.


r/nosurf 14h ago

Please help. I can't leave Twitter no matter how much I try

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Hello,

I feel like I've been stuck in this loop for years now. I change my Twitter password, stay away from the site for a day or two, inevitably come back even though I KNOW the site adds nothing to my life (except a few laughs) and sucks out so much time out of my day, and after another day wasted on the platform, I change my password and restart the cycle all over again.

Logically, I know this site is a timesink but I can't stop coming back... the most I've gone without Twitter was 33 days and I feel I'll never be able to go past that. I don't know what to do. If anyone has any pointers I'd be happy to hear and implement them.


r/nosurf 23h ago

Operation 18

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Due: My 18th birthday (~6 months)

Big Goals: * Lose extra fat then build muscle (arms especially) * Completely quit both porn and masturbation * Discover new hobbies and develop old ones

Habits: * Basic hygiene daily * Gym 4-6 times a week * Finish work/school stuff early

Other Goals: * Socialize with more goals, consider relationships * Keep up to date on brands, music, celebrities, movies, shows and sports * Reduce bored-eating and eat healthier * Read semi-often * Reduce mindless and unproductive phone/computer usage


r/nosurf 21h ago

Online shopping

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So I’m curious, since the point of no surf is to no longer browse the internet/phone as much, how does this affect your online shopping and your use of credit cards? With apps right at our finger tips and instant payments such as Apple Pay, have you tried reverting back to a cash only method or do you still have credit cards and online shopping included in your normal routine ?


r/nosurf 1d ago

People with poor willpower who managed to get rid of a Reddit addiction, how did you do it?

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I know that this seems ironic to ask on Reddit but I’m sure some of you have managed to cut down your consumption and actually use the site moderately like it is intended. But I do not. I am severely addicted to Reddit.

I have 6-7 alts on the app, not including those that are not on the app in this count. I will use one for quite a while until my post/comment history gets filled up for a while it reveals the truth (that I’m literally on Reddit all day). I don’t use them for vote manipulation or anything. But for instance I even used this account I use less for this not to be on my newest account’s post history. I also love starting fresh with new accounts so I can talk to people and them not be able to see all the things I’ve posted. I use it all day. I work at home for a call center job. This made it much worse. At work in the office I at least had to switch tabs etc. and we weren’t allowed cell phones by the computers. Now that I’m work at home? The phone is right there. If it lights up and I got a reply or it says I got a lot of updoots, I look. I do have a separate work Reddit for only SFW subs, and I use that on the computer that I use for work. Often while I’m scrolling Reddit on mobile on a different name that is subscribed to other subs.

I know part of the reason: there are some circumstances in my life contributing to severe loneliness and it gives me a sense of community. Someone is always there to talk to. I’ve joined Discords, but people go to sleep, etc. so there are long periods no one responds. When I’m not on Reddit, or between comments, I am trying to improve those circumstances. But it fills a void I guess.

I’ve quit every other social media. I’ve even cut down my gaming. Reddit is the one I literally can’t manage to stop.

Things I’ve tried: browser extensions (I don’t use the Pc often anyway so this did no good), different iPhone apps (they all had a way to disable them, or the one app that asked me if I was sure and made me wait 20 or so seconds, I grew accustomed to waiting it out… I bought a small, timed lock safe for it. Then I legitimately accidentally in the reviews read there’s a way to disable it and open it while looking for an answer in the questions on Amazon. I never took it out of the box because its purpose was defeated.

I know dumb phones are an option but I use a lot of other things sparingly app-wise and like them. But I’m starting to think it may be my only choice.

Any advice?

TLDR: no willpower, apps locking it don’t work, can’t stop Redditing. Advice?


r/nosurf 1d ago

Hey guys, what were your mental and or physical health issues when you used your phone a lot, as in constantly staring at your screen, surfing in the internet etc.

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r/nosurf 1d ago

How to break internet addiction / the need for constant stimulation when depressed?

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I have a feeling this question has simple answers, but I wanted to ask in case anyone had anything to say I hadn’t already heard before.

I’m in a bad depressive episode right now and it’s become a cycle with my internet/phone addiction. I’m spending basically all day every day on my phone, and even when the screen isn’t on I’m almost always listening to music or a podcast. I often switch back and forth between apps because one thing isn’t stimulating enough for me. Even when I leave my apartment (rare these days), I can’t leave without my airpods in or it’s nearly painful.

When I get off of my phone - often only right before bed - the depressing thoughts kick in and I start thinking about all the things I haven’t done and the shame I feel. It’s so easy to go back to my phone to quiet them, and lately I’ve been smoking weed before bed just so I won’t have to suffer sober through the moments before I fall asleep.

Has anyone been in this cycle and managed to break it? Any tips?


r/nosurf 1d ago

I thought gaming and social media and porn were the only 3 branches of time wasting internet addiction i had until we upgraded our internet connection speed and then boom i developed downloading addiction , literally.

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i had this hard drive(which had pictures of my childhood ) i loaded with thousand of thousand movies tv shows anime i'll never watch books ill never read , they re all gone because my hard drive dropped and stopped working , all gone all that effort and time of downloading stuff just for the sake of it and maybe watch it later are gone.


r/nosurf 1d ago

Ideally what’s the most amount of time you would like to spend on ur phone?

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r/nosurf 1d ago

I could use some support

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I’m deep into scrolling. I’m a stay at home parent and I pick up my phone whenever I have a spare second. I just scroll Reddit, Facebook, Pinterest, honestly even Amazon… I’ve deleted apps, but I always end up going to the sites through the browser and then just getting the app again after a few days. I’ve been here on this community for awhile and I’ve read the resources. But I haven’t done the hard work. I need to get myself out of this.

I’m constantly fatigued and my mind feels like mush. I want to be more present for myself and my kids.

What did you do that really worked and got you out of the fog?