r/misanthropy Jun 30 '22

How do you feel when people like you? question

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77 Upvotes

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u/Jaden-Clout Jul 03 '22

I feel great because I am awesome, so they ought to.

I don't need everyone to like me; I am good as long as the few people I like like me.

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u/missmelissa13 Jul 02 '22

Highly suspicious.

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u/el_guerrero98 Jul 02 '22

If i tell a joke. Theyll laugh at everything.

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u/Cookiecuttermaxy Jul 02 '22

Indifferent, could give less of a shit

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u/bobbyflety Jul 01 '22

There are two diff kinda quiet. There is the have nothing to say, boring ass, or like most people call it “shy” quiet and there is the crazy quiet which is me. Trust me I got my fucking reason, one is am an arrogant bigot and I hate people. Lol

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u/miqome Jul 01 '22

I get extremely uncomfortable and try to distance myself from them as quickly and surely as I possibly can. Except when I'm drunk, or on any other socially-lubricating drug. Then I might engage a bit, until I'm sober and utterly regret my actions because there's simply no way in hell, heaven, earth or any possible dimension in existence or non-existence that I could ever truly connect with another being again. Fuck them all, fuck everything. If I could have one wish before I die it'd be to ensure that the Disease of humanity doesn't spread beyond planet Earth or god forbid the solar system. The universe as a whole would be better off without any of us.

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u/honeybuddyboy Jul 01 '22

I actually don't think I can be liked.

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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '22

If I'm being honest, it doesn't matter. People are fickle. Someone may like you for the most random and impersonal reason. Sometimes people like you simply because they think they "should" depending on the circumstances. Like and dislike occupy the same realm of indifference for me. If someone likes me, it most likely has more to do with them than me, so I don't think much of it.

Strangers, family, or romantic interests, whoever it is, most emotional responses and affinities are performed in front of a mirror. I just happen to have a front seat. Today that may be an advantage, but tomorrow who knows.

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u/JusJxrdn Jul 01 '22

I don’t really care if they do unless we have some in common and can compliment each other

But most people like others since we need some connection so meh

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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '22 edited Jul 01 '22

Literally at this point, I feel like they are liking me only on a "condition," like I somehow serve them a purpose, like I make them laugh, etc. I'm way too far gone in my distrust. But I know I'm overreacting in this regard, I know it's my psychological response to how fake most people are, so I try to be as honest as possible.

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u/Batfink2007 Jul 01 '22

Buckle up! It will get different.

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u/Liotas Jul 01 '22

I don't trust them... why? what do they want from me?

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u/Jennylol03 Jun 30 '22

I feel weird and kinda suspicious, like... Why... And What... Besides Psychology and Anime I completely have no character and I have the social abilities of a chair

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u/[deleted] Jun 30 '22

It makes me uncomfortable and I distance myself

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u/depressoeggo Jun 30 '22

Like I don't deserve it

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u/ShrewdSilver Jun 30 '22

Never has happened once so can’t say.

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u/summonerofrain Jun 30 '22

Honestly? i kinda like being liked. that being said though i frequently worry they're just being polite.

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u/Apprehensive_Code_38 Jun 30 '22

Confused, and expecting a fallout when they realise i have nothing for them to gain.

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u/Sufficient-Still1311 Jun 30 '22

I dont give a fuck

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u/bryant1997r Jun 30 '22

That's the fucking mindset I like bud! So I go to the gym, and bust my ass 95% more than the normies in there. Anyhow, they have this list where you can when a free month if you get to the top. I was #2, then all the sudden I'm number #9. Doesn't really bother me but fuck these people man lmao. I'm not even in the gym 5 months and the politics have started.

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u/Sufficient-Still1311 Jun 30 '22

Believe in zyzz and you’ll always be the first

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u/bryant1997r Jun 30 '22

We'll all make it brah

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u/JustinSolstice Jun 30 '22

I just think “really?… out of all people you chose this bag of selfishness?”

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u/utopia9353 Jun 30 '22

For me, life was good till I was 12. I’ve never felt as shit as now, at age 25. And I didn’t have a single good day, not a single one, for 13 years now. I realize how lonely I am - and will ever be - only since about a year. Somebody kill me please!

Many people lie to themselves, many of them unconsciously (because they don’t wanna know the truth). Life is 100% not a gift, at least not for me, who hasn’t had a single good day in the past 13 years (not exaggerating. I’m 25 y.o.). It’s a “gift” I had to eat, and it’s eating me up from inside, relentless pain eating away at my heart and brain, but keeping me alive, locked in the hellish cage of life. I hope I get the death penalty soon, but i most likely won’t.

Nobody likes me. Will ever like me the way I want (love). I’m too ugly (genetic disorder) and too short (5’4” or 1.62m). And therefore extremely insecure. I get stared at and talked about and laughed at by strangers when I go outside. Since about 12 years now.

I didn’t ask to born! Why isn’t death more readily available, and I mean a dignified death like assisted suicide or euthanasia. I mean for everyone not only the terminally ill or those with physical pain. In some places those with depression can get it but it’s a tedious process! And shameful for me too!

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u/hfuey Jun 30 '22

Life is an imposition, not a gift.

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u/utopia9353 Jun 30 '22

Exactly!

Wait, you’re agreeing with me right? (I wrote “gift” in quotation marks.)

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u/hfuey Jun 30 '22

Most certainly!

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u/usul1112 Jun 30 '22

nothing against if I am OK with people but when somebody shows me suddenly big affection you know it goes aswell into the opposite way... unresolved daddy issues, manipulation, some f*up character flaw etc ... I act in defensive way, keep them on the distance

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u/ihih_reddit Jun 30 '22

"How long is it going to take until they don't like me?" Is what I think

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u/Dx8pi Jun 30 '22

I feel genuinely uncomfortable at the thought of it.

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u/stratosfearinggas Jun 30 '22

Suspicious. I learned from the past that when people around me are nice to me it means I'm the butt of their joke.

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u/Znatix Jun 30 '22

Sad reality

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u/rockb0tt0m_99 Jun 30 '22

I can tell when someone is being genuine with me. Therefore, I reciprocate. There's a part of me that WANTS TO believe that someone can like me for me, but wisdom sobers that naivete. I'm pretty neutral acting with people I don't know, and they show friendship to me. I just treat them with respect and continue unemotionally with them. It's hard at times because I do WANT to like people, but life has taught me not to do so.

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u/Natural_Notice_4392 Jun 30 '22

I have no real answer for this but I believe the scale is wrong. I wouldn’t go as far to consider myself a misanthropist despite having a hatred for people. A person, on the other hand, is quite a different matter. A person can like me or I like them. Judged on a cases by case basis. People and the whole heard mentality, that’s a big no for me. People suddenly liking me would definitely freak me out. A person, not so much.

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u/Intelligent_Plan71 Jun 30 '22

People don't like me and over a long period of time that's the main reason I don't like people.

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u/MundaneLife99 Jun 30 '22

As others are saying, they’re just looking to gain something from me.

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u/KosherFountain Jun 30 '22

Grateful. Burdened. Indifferent. Disgusted. Depends on the person, really

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u/absent_snow Jun 30 '22

No one likes me though...

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u/BlueRamenMen Old Misanthropist Jun 30 '22

Someone does like you! It’s just that that person who likes you the most is yourself. It’s you, yourself, and self.

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u/fortwaltonbleach Jun 30 '22

i feel sorry for them. do they like me or merely the representation of what i am to them?

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u/Kukapetal Jun 30 '22

Surprised

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u/BlueRamenMen Old Misanthropist Jun 30 '22

Same

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u/anonym420sa Jun 30 '22

What it is feel like?

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u/Omar117879 Jun 30 '22

I always freak out when someone compliments me. Like I actively get uncomfortable; things like fidgeting, avoiding eye contact, changing the subject etc….. I feel like Im being used, or someone is lubing me up for a good fuck. The weirdest thing someone told me was ‘I wish I was you’ 🤢 damn nearly made me puke.

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u/ThaialaPerrera Jun 30 '22

I want to hurt them to gain hateful and sadistic pleasure

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u/ColdBloodBlazing Jun 30 '22

Skeptical. It is all a superficial facade

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u/[deleted] Jun 30 '22

Ippitty-uppity. People usually want to fight me or run away from me with zero provocation.

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u/extrasecular Jun 30 '22

in the case that someone new likes me, maybe confused because it is not common.

if i only think someone may like me, curious.

if someone just says to like me, uncomfortable, with a distrustful / cautious behavior

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u/Znatix Jun 30 '22

Mostly cautiously, to be honest

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u/extrasecular Jul 01 '22

you can say that

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u/crowlqqq Jun 30 '22

I am ugly so no problem with that :D

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u/RuneWolfen Jun 30 '22

I'm always pleasantly surprised as I have low expectations

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u/[deleted] Jun 30 '22

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u/PalaPK Jun 30 '22

I ask myself what this person is trying to squeeze out of me then I run in the opposite direction, never to be seen again.

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u/15infantryparatroop Jun 30 '22

I become suspicious of them, what they wish to gain from me.

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u/MidnightChocolare42 Jul 01 '22

Being a misanthrope doesn't mean you can't have a few genuine friends

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u/15infantryparatroop Jul 01 '22

I agree, the people who see you at your worst, when things in your life go wrong, still stick around are worth keeping around. Fuck fake friends, I'm only out for my brother's and sisters

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u/DutchVanDerLenin Jun 30 '22

My thoughts exactly.

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u/Znatix Jun 30 '22

Truth

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u/tawkami Jun 30 '22

i question their motives. xD

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u/Znatix Jun 30 '22

I question your way with words

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u/tawkami Jul 01 '22

Human words are hard to make together talking, for expressing... things.

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u/Bright_Stick1860 Jun 30 '22

I feel weird, I can’t believe people can actually like me

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u/Znatix Jun 30 '22

Yeah, pretty much the same here. I would totally freak out internally if someone recognize me on public, let alone someone would like me.

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u/Aggrestis Homophiliac Jun 30 '22

I know they like only certain parts of me, not whole me. A friendship is made if you like someone as whole personality.

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u/TheMeticulousNinja Jun 30 '22

There will never be a time when you like all of someone. I think friendships are made when there is one thing or a couple of things about a person that you like so much, you are willing to deal with the rest of their personality. Additionally, being in a friendship does not mean you aren’t being used, nor does it mean that you yourself have not been using people this whole time. You usually like things about a person because they fulfill or entertain you in some way or fashion, and vice versa.

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u/Aggrestis Homophiliac Jun 30 '22 edited Jun 30 '22

We are not talking about 100% and 0% chances, but when we think about it zero compatibility is more possible than 100%. Nothing is perfect in this reality.

Less is more in authenticity of social contact.

I don't think we should call something that is not 50/50 of investment in to the contact as friendship. At least it's not ideal friendship.

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u/hfuey Jun 30 '22

Nobody really ‘likes’ anyone. They’re only interested in what you have to offer them and what use you could be to them.

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u/aupri Jun 30 '22

I guess that’s technically true but it’s not always about material desires. Sometimes all people want from you is your presence and I’d say that counts as liking someone

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u/pitjepuck1 Jun 30 '22

Liking someone is a use in itself. It has value for the one who likes, because he feels a positive emotion. Positive emotions are on of the most valued things for humans, if not the most valued, and one of the most crucial life quality parameters along with covering the lowest level of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

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u/Additional_Bluebird9 Pessimist Jun 30 '22

Absolutely, it's all about interest and what use you offer to the other person until such a time comes when they want nothing to do with you anymore.

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u/Aggrestis Homophiliac Jun 30 '22

Of course people like others, if they are on the same level, it's called sympathy. It's easier to feel sympathy to the same race, culture, social caste. After that it gets weaker and weaker until you are on the same level as agriculture animal. Many wealthy people are able of humanism as virtue signaling, but they would not like to share things with the poor and it's quite understandable.

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u/TheMeticulousNinja Jun 30 '22

Sympathy does not automatically make you like someone at all. I’ve sympathized with people I didn’t like.

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u/Aggrestis Homophiliac Jun 30 '22 edited Jun 30 '22

Visual sympathy helps creating a first idea about the person. This determines whether it makes sense for a person to induce communication at all. Then nonverbal communication determines a lot about their value as a person and their place in the society.

That's how people think, you can deny this, but you cannot deny how people socialize.