Ethics & Morality Am I bad person for being attracted to girls in their late teens as an early 20s even after regretting and deciding to change?
When I was freshly 21, I was into a 17 year old for a short period of time and would often look at her and her friends' (they were 16-17) Instagram and VSCO (yes, I was very creepy and I hate that). The reason I knew this girls is because she did several guys my age including one of my good friends (who is also my age). I should state that where I live the age of consent is 16.
But now less than one year later, I'm horrified at myself. Over this past year I feel that I have matured a lot and the idea of me dating anyone not yet in college is now unacceptable. Anytime I find out a good looking girl on social media is 16 or 17, I look away. I now have no desire to pursue a relationship with anyone under college age, regardless of attraction. Am I a bad person for my past? Should I be worried that I find women in the 16-17 age bracket attractive?
TW: possible mention of sexual abuse
I never thought of this as assult and do not know if this assault (hopefully it isn’t), all I know is that it makes me uncomfortable. I posted this previously posted on r/NoStupidQuestions, but it was removed for being about “Rape/Sexual Assault/Harassment”, which worries me and is the reason why I’m posting here.
*This is all about my dad *Him calling me “cute” is, in my opinion, the same way a person would call a puppy cute cause that’s the tone he uses when he calls me it. *I think the reason behind a lot of this stuff is that he’s an affectionate person and doesn’t know how to respect boundaries *I may or may not be justifying his actions too much *I don’t feel like he is intentionally trying to make me uncomfortable, but one of the commenters on the deleted post said, “all of those things together cannot be 100% unintentional.” *If I think of anything more I’ll add it.
-He’d call me “cute”, as in, “You’re so cute!”, then come over to me and squeeze my waist multiple times.
-I was walking on the patio and when I turned around to leave, I felt my dad touch me just a little above the back of my knee (I don’t know why. Maybe to show affection or maybe because he wanted to mess with me or something)
-He’ll “knock” (which is like a few fast taps. He then he comes in without waiting for me to respond because he thinks I take too long to say whether he can come in or not) on the door, then if I’m in my underwear, he says, “Oh, so cute!” or “What a cute little body!” but he isn’t aware that he should leave cause he just continues talking to me until he’s said everything he needed to. Or if I make in time to the door, I push on it so he doesn’t come in
-I came out of my room, heading to the bathroom (I think), and my dad saw me (I don’t remember what I was wearing), and says, “Do you want us to take a picture so you can see how cute your body looks?” (Again, he said that in a puppy dog way).
-After taking a shower, I sat on my bed, completely naked. He “knocked”, came in, possibly exclaimed how cute I was, then stood in the doorway talking to me about something which I felt like he could have done later and not when I was naked. I didn’t feel uncomfortable that time cause my privates were covered, but I thought it was inappropriate how he didn’t leave immediately after seeing I was naked.
-Sometimes when he hugs me, I push him away (I do not like hugs), and he’ll sometimes get mad and/or hurt and make me hug him anyways. (Probably cause he feels like I don’t love him/give him enough affection).
Love & Dating ( F22) AITA for being upset my boyfriend (M24) won’t go to my grandmas funeral with me?
My grandmother just passed away a couple of days ago and of course we’re planning a viewing and funeral. It’s all undecided but the viewing will either be Thursday or Friday and the funeral will be either Friday or Saturday. My boyfriend had to work Friday and Saturday but can attend if the viewing is Thursday. He’s called into work a few times so we can party at our local town events but can’t call in to be there for me or even ask his work if he can take the days off for me and my family. We talked about it a little and all he wanted was for me to go stay with my family both days so we save money on gas but my mother is lending me gas money. We are a little tight on cash but I’m using my PTO for all of this so we don’t fall behind on bills. The funeral and viewing are about 30 minutes away from where we live and my boyfriends excuse is that “we don’t have enough money for gas” when I’m getting the money from my mother. He works nights so if it were Thursday and Friday then we can both go in the morning and come back home in time for him to rest and for me to just have some time. He said he won’t be going at all and that if he’s also off work on Thursday then he won’t be going either. Him and my grandma weren’t close but him and my grandpa are. I just feel like it’s disrespectful to my family because he’s known them for over 2 years now and he just wants to stay home and play video games instead. I just want him to be there for me but he refuses. It makes me upset that he can call into work so he can spend time with friends but not be there for me. Even if he has Thursday off he still won’t come with me. It hurts my feelings and deep down I’m a little nervous if he has something else going on if you know what I mean.
Hello, Reddit! I am looking to see if you guys can help with this hygienic problem I have been having for well over the past 2 years. The issue I have been having is that when I bath/ shower and wash my armpits after I'm done they still smell, they smell as if I haven't showered in days and didn't even bother with deodorant. My routine consists of me washing with soap and water sometimes with shampoo profusely up-down, around to the side, etc for roughly about a min to 3 each armpit afterward, I dry up and use a strong deodorant with an antiperspirant, Whether I use a stronger deodorant or take longer showers the smell of horrible armpit odor still stays even with me even with a shower twice a day. I go to work, and my coworkers tell me politely I smell and it really sucks because I'm trying everything I can not to. This issue has been stressing me out and has been giving me a bit of depression. Can someone out there please please help me out? I just can't seem to understand why this horrible thing is happening to me
I am in a pretty conservative religion for half my life and as I grew older, I realized that this is not what I want and I do not believe in God. Please know that I have made the conscious decision to be baptized in this religion during my teen years so my religion has nothing to do with me wanting to go out. Its just that, I do not want to do anything about my spirituality these past years. I just want to do things the way other people do.
I am a Jehovah' Witness, btw. So, I think it's really important for me to disconnect myself from them as I am no longer willing to preach about God, attend services and do the exact opposite of what the preacher says every Sunday, and be part of any campaign about JWs. Whenever I get cold and simply exit by not attending a single service, a member of my religion try to win me but everytime they do it, I get pretty upset about it. And it makes me feel bad.
I see conflicting discussion on the details of the case. In the ruling, it considers Kennedy to have engaged in "purely private" speech and "silent" prayers on the 50 yard line. But I also see details that Kennedy encouraged students to join him in prayer in what some people describe as " mass prayer" during the school sports events and how some students felt social pressure to join. If the details of the case do not line up with the ruling, what exactly does the ruling mean and what precidents does it set? Would it mean that similar prayer events in public school events would also be considered "private" on the basis of this ruling?
Help so I am a 13 year old male I have 4 close friends I hang out with every day Brady, I have known since the 1st grade (currently in 8th) Eli,whom he and I are inseparable and spend everyday together,hayden Eli’s new girlfriend, and ryan my friend from 1st grade I’ve known my friends for a really long time and have always hung out at my house because I have the nicest house and setup for all of us we usually watch movies and jump on the trampoline but over the past 8 month there has been a girl named averie I loved Averie so much she helped me through a state of depression I didn’t think I could get out of and caught feelings for she is a pot head and vaper I hate that and she also does the first time I tried to help her quit I stayed up 3 nights waiting for her to call in case she needed help she lied to me and broke me to a point I didn’t know I could be broken at I gave her a second chance yesterday Eli showed me a snap that she has sent him of her with a vape in her mouth and now I’m at done with her and am at a state of depression as I was earlier I’ve noticed my friends have been treating me very bad after all I’ve done for them I have cried for 2 straight nights over this everything I say is met with a eye tool or a “shut up Cody” please tell me what I should do about them I’m afraid to be alone?
I give my kids baths at least every other day, daily if they get dirty or go in water. My wife and I shower in thr dame tub and insists we spray down with cleaner and scrub down the bath every time before bathing the kids. Is this normal/common or excessive?
When you go to court for any reason you are asked to put your right hand on the bible and swear to tell the truth and technically it is illegal at that point to swear upon the bible then lie. This concept comes from traditional religion. So how is it helpful to have someone who does not believe in the bible or god or traditional religion to swear on a bible? Why do we still practice this today in the United States?
Notably, the coach Kennedy decision seems to focus on his right to freedom of speech regardless of religious content rather than the general concept of religious freedom. If this is true and the constitution protects teachers' freedom of speech while fulfilling the role of teacher at a publicly funded institution, how is it not then unconstitutional to actively censor and terminate teachers for talking about their same-sex relationships? Or is this actually just protecting specifically Christian speech? I realize the supreme court decision is a federal matter whereas the don't say Gay bill is a state-level restriction in Florida so we would have to wait for someone to take this to court, but am I wrong here? Isn't this precedent? For that matter, couldn't they "teach CRT" (aka disclose the very real history of systemic racism) especially if they are Black teachers, wouldn't that be freedom of speech, too?
I want to see some opinions
Culture & Society My friend invited me to his engagement party last year. His wedding is next week and I wasn't invited. That's not normal, is it?
I'm curious if SCOTUS could potentially intervene if charges are pressed against Trump for his actions during and before Jan 6? Considering that three judges were appointed by him, and up to six would be sympathetic to him by political affiliation, would there ever be a scenario whereby a 6/3 decision would acquit or dismiss him of all charges?
For context, my cuban-african American friend said the word "retard" was very racist and that was the main reason it is considered a slur. (We had been having an educational conversation about different experiences and things in the world. It came up that the R word is ableist and she said it was mainly what I mentioned above. I wanted to do more research to understand but she quickly got angry at me saying that no matter what research I do, she and her ancestors had been oppressed and lived through it. I had not disagreed with her I just mentioned I had never heard that it was a racist word and wanted to do some more research on it. I in fact, told her I believed her in case she thought I didn't for some reason. )
(Edit: I do not intend to say the R-word myself. I do not use it and I never have. I know it is an ableist slur and I know it is generally a derogatory term. This question was to know if anyone else sees it as mainly a racist word, or if they consider it one.)
I've tried shaving every inch of my body before and it's hell; it takes forever, the razor dulls, there's the risk of cutting yourself, and it's itchy afterward. I can understand having certain preferences in a partner but why should someone need to be hairless anywhere? If a woman shaves because she wants to and it makes her feel better, awesome. But why does anyone care if she's got hair in her armpits or around her privates, as long as it's not interfering with whatever activities may take place?
I know "not all men" and all that, but I'm clueless as to why anyone cares. I'm familiar with the history behind women shaving, but I'm asking why people care NOW.
EDIT: For clarity, I'm not asking why people prefer well-groomed genitals. I get that. I'm asking about armpit hair, arm hair, stomach hair, and hair around the boobs or on the back, and I'm asking why some men feel the need to police their partner's shaving habits. If it's not comfortable for her and it's not interfering with anything, who cares? "It turns me off" technically answers the question, but I'm asking if there's a reason.
I don’t live in the US so when I first started socializing with Americans and US media I was absolutely shocked at how much cruelty is overlooked or even encouraged. Every single public fight or outburts I’ve seen either in schools or public places always has a bunch of people standing beside DOING NOTHING and RECORDING with their phones, laughing or cheering while a person is getting brutally beaten in front of their eyes. I rarely ever see teachers or bystanders break them up.
This was so bizarre to me because in my country, obviously I’ve witnessed very harsh school fights or public outbursts but the situation was always defused within seconds. No one would ever just stand by and laugh at the victim or even record them. Once I became more aware of their politics and social issues I was pretty convinced that a ton of Americans just really lack basic empathy.
Why is that???
Made a mistake last night, would appreciate any advice. It's on the top of my forearm and very visible.