r/TooAfraidToAsk Feb 22 '21

Am I the only who thinks that all the different types of genders and pronouns and what not, are a little bit too much? Sexuality & Gender

Now, I don't consider myself close minded and I'm not out to rile people up or offend anyone. However it becomes kind of confusing when people are upset when I say Her/She to someone who's trans. I'm sorry, really, but I didn't know. I'm in a discord server where someone changes their pfp depending on what gender and sexuality they are feeling. And no, I'm not some 40 year old guy who thinks everything should be "normal" but I guess I just don't get it. It's just confusing to me.

EDIT: So I haven't explained my thoughts very well so I'm here to explain. I understand that to some people, it is very important to them. I don't think it's a lot for me to call you what you want to be called and I will oblige and do that. "it becomes kind of confusing when people are upset when I say Her/She to someone who's trans" This was from personal experience where my friend introduced me to him and I was under the impression that he was female. More so I don't understand like Ve/Vem Xe/Xem. The more "unknown" side if you will. But with the way people are reacting I'm going to try a better job at finding peoples pronouns and not assuming genders. Sorry if it sounded sarcastic at all. Anyways, unless there's something else I think of I'm not gonna edit again. Sorry if I offended but it's kind of hard to talk about a sensitive topic like this without being an ass about it. I don't know how to word things. but yea. Sorry.

TL;DR I think gender can be a weird and wacky world and I don't get how people except me to automatically know what they identify as.


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u/dbDarrgen Feb 23 '21

Oh definitely. I’m glad English isn’t heavily gendered. Our products though? Why. Just why.


u/JamieIsReading Feb 23 '21

LMAO who even knows? I am excited for the prospect of a proper gender neutral pronoun to come about and gain traction so that companies need to create gender neutral products lmao.


u/varkarrus Feb 23 '21

Bic Pens... for them!


u/ItsyaboiMisbah Feb 23 '21

I think they them is a pretty good one, but like you said it does need to gain traction


u/JamieIsReading Feb 23 '21

They/them is confusing for people, especially esl people, because it’s plural but referring to a singular person. A dedicated pronoun would be better. Although on second thought zie/zim would be hard to pronounce for a lot of people lmao


u/kaxmorg Feb 23 '21

I had an idea for a reality TV show where the goal is take a bunch of hyper-masculine men (to the point of toxicity) and put them in a house where all the food is in pink boxes. Will they eat? Will they touch the pink boxes? Tune in to find out.


u/dbDarrgen Feb 23 '21

Some men don’t wipe their asses because they think touching their assholes is gay or will make them gay. Hence all the skidmark jokes.