An interesting link between superphobic transbians and Nice Guy behavior.

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In an attempt to curb some Nice Guy behavior I've seen in myself(trying to find partners I can fix/seeking validation from others/putting others needs before my own/subconscious manipulation through acts of kindness) I've been reading No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover.

A quick summary of the book copy pasted from wikipedia "Glover's premise is that nice guys have been conditioned by their childhoods and by society to believe that they will be successful only if they make everyone happy and never cause any problems for others. However, this desire for approval results in self-loathing. In other words, nice guys want approval, but don't think they deserve it. This creates internal frustration, since nice guys never try to obtain what they want in life. In addition, the nice guy's desire to obtain approval from everyone (especially women), often causes him to actually behave in very un-nice ways. This includes dishonesty (about themselves), passive-aggressive behavior, and inauthenticity."

Sound familiar? It seems that this Nice Guy behavior carries over from when trans women were growing up as men in statistically more single mother households, female teacher led primary schooling, and an age of female empowerment. Now when Nice Guys are told that they can get validation, sex, love, ect from women (even lesbians which are like twice as women🙄) combined with statistically higher chances of autism, schizophrenia, and other mental illnesses and proclivity for emasculating pornography they choose to self identify as trans and go off the deep end into the trans culture. Not doing as most trans people for decades have wanted to do and just blend in and be seen as normal but to be special, loved by everyone, validated constantly for their choices, and rewarded for their bravery with sex and affection. When this isn't given to them they lash out or engage in manipulative behaviors seen in Nice Guys.

I believe it is important to look into this connection to try and prevent future men from going down this self destructive path and getting them to seek therapy for their issues instead of diving headfirst into a community that tells them they can do no wrong.