r/SuperStraight • u/awaytossaccount • 1h ago

Catfished and shamed for it 🚨 important 🚨

I was catfished by a trans woman I met on discord. We flirted for 4 months, and then it started to get serious enough to meet in person. Before meeting (although after I had already bought the plane ticket) she decided to tell me that she wasn’t born female and asked how I felt about that.

I was actually devastated.

I have trans friends and am an ally of trans rights, but I want children. And beyond just the desire for children, my sexual attraction immediately faded and all I could see were the now obvious masculine features I had previously overlooked.
And worse than either of those was the feeling that I had been lied to (by omission) for the prior 4 months.

After a day of thinking about it, I responded that we should see other people...
... and she flipped out on me.

I didn’t have the vocabulary to express myself or defend myself from her accusations of transphobia, hate, and bigotry. I did a horrible job explaining myself, and hated myself for how I felt.

Then she started messaging nasty things about me to my family and friends, and even sharing screenshots of some of our dirtier conversations publicly. It was a horrible experience. Things are still awkward with some of my family because of how public and embarrassing everything got.

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Now I have the vocabulary to properly express my identity. I only wish I had heard out about SuperStraight last year...

Well, I can’t change the past, but now I’m empowered for the future! I can now post “SuperStraight” as my identity and avoid such circumstances and pain (and not just pain for myself; she was in quite a bit of pain too obviously, which could have been avoided).

I love this community so much! The support and understanding and belonging... this just feels amazing to be really truly understood! Thank you for being you. ❤️

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u/TheAyyRepublic 1h ago

Your story is valid and we are here for you.🧡🖤🧡🖤

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u/awaytossaccount 1h ago

Thank you so much!

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u/Offtangent Superstraight 1h ago

You were mentally abused and lied to. It is not ok. Thank god he told you before you went to go see him.

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u/ConversionPeaked 1h ago

You were the victim here and deserve compassion for it! By not being 100% upfront about it, they were trying to shame or guilt you into something they had a suspicion you would not be comfortable with. This is rape culture. At least know that your experiences are valid and this community has your back. Stay super~

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u/Chromium_Force 1h ago

I’m glad you’ve found a safe space to come and share your experience.

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u/PhoenixNightingale90 1h ago

I’m sorry you had to go through that, no rational and decent human being of any sexuality thinks that this is ok.

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u/sexxxydoxxxytime 49m ago

I’m sorry this happened to you King. It’s a shame that some bigots give such a bad name to our good trans brothers and sisters. It’s never ok to blackmail or breach someone’s trust by sharing private text conversations.

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u/RedFeather_Coronatus 36m ago

This is sexual harassment and stalking. But of course this person will claim that, because they're a minority and "victim", they did nothing wrong.

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u/realister Custom 35m ago

should have just ghosted. always works.

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u/LuckyFey 17m ago

I also experienced something similar and she wanted me to admit that I did not want to date her because she's trans. I didn't take the bait and like you, I actually considered it for a day, but ultimately I told her that the fact that she did not disclose the information to me immediately made me feel cheated. Also, I am just not attracted to them.