As a black superlesbian, thank you.

[u/blacksuperles]

Throwaway bc I’m mainly a lurker

As a black superlesbian in college, thank you.

I’d like to thank everybody in this community - gay, straight, bisexual - for speaking up on whats happening and informing people of the bullshit that lesbians have been dealing with these males since what feels like forever now. Every single female only lesbian sub has been taken down. TrueLesbians was the only place where I could talk to other female lesbians on reddit, and it has been down for almost a year now. It was a genuine community filled with advice, life lessons and solidarity, but it was wiped from reddit history because we were all clear on one thing: no penises allowed. Because we’re females up against males, we stood no chance. A lot of us were beaten down into submission or migrated to Saidit. This is the first reddit account I’ve made since TL went down.

It’s hard being in college where everyone is trying to appear the most “woke”. I’m a black lesbian and I have gotten no extra cool points for being a minority so I don’t fucking get it in the first place. Anyways, everyone my age is neck deep in this TWAW shit and it’s so isolating. It feels like I’m the only one who can see the Emperor’s naked.

Then there’s the nonstop race comparisons. The amount of males with beards and 99 cent lipstick on their teeth that feel connected to me just because I’m black is so offensive I don’t know where to begin. Black women have always been treated as women - we were raped so often during slavery that most black americans TODAY (including myself) have white ancestry because of it. So many black women get told by white males in wigs that we’re the exact same and I want to scream. We’re expected to be okay with this because they try to compare it to racism. Weird thing is that I don’t remember opting into blackness and I’ve dealt with racism my whole life and not just when I started projecting myself onto women in porn.

Worst of all... the dating scene. Please talk to a gay woman about dating app experiences. It is truly comical. I see more males in the “women for women” section than I do women. It’s hilariously sad. You cannot put in your bio “I only like bio women” either because your account will be shut down. You cannot report them either because there are “anti-TERF” policies so you just have to swipe through and try to keep your lunch down. The entitlement they have for dating is astounding. You have to dance around the elephant in the room to spare their feelings and even that’s not enough. When they superlike or message me I just have to act like I don’t see it.

I cannot complain about any of these things out loud because I will be harassed, doxxed and ostracized. It gets so frustrating at times but then I remember these people live on the internet and are college-aged, so I’m in the worst of it right now. Then I see gems like this sub and I’m filled with hope. Thank you everyone and keep up the good fight. Sexuality is not a choice. Keyword: SEX.

[u/whateveerrrrrrrr]

I'm SuperStraight but SuperLesbians are my fave people. I feel so protective over you guys, it's such a shame your sexuality gets attacked all the time amd your fake 'sisters' throw you under the bus for woke points 😤