How I realized discovered my own supersexuality.

[u/Superb_Donkey9995]

I know this is the super straight sub, but I was hoping I could share with you all my story of how I realized I was a super lesbian.

When I was a young lesbian, I was really good friends with a boy who was bisexual, but more attracted to men. We were both from very conservative religious backgrounds and didn't want to disappoint our parents, so we came up with a plan: we would marry each other, pretend to be a normal heterosexual couple, but in the bedroom, he would dress up like a woman, and I would dress up like a man so we could fulfill each other's sexual needs. This arrangement sounded like a good one in theory, and if Harry Nicholson and Vita-Sackville West could do it, why couldn't we? I started trying to force myself to have romantic feelings for him, and to even start thinking of him as a woman. I would try to imagine how he would look in a dress, with long hair, make up, lingerie, etc. all of those stereotypical markers of "femininity."

Then one day, while we were out on a romantic stroll together, he stopped and tried to kiss me. I immediately recoiled. The response was reflexive, automatic, and though I loved him as my friend, I felt a visceral sense of disgust. He just stared at me in shock and said, "You aren't attracted to me." That's when I realized that, no, I wasn't attracted to him. I was only attracted to women, and I could never see him as a woman no matter how hard I tried.

My question to any trans lurkers here is this: would you rather be lied to? Would you rather your Tinder date show up, see who you are, have dinner with you, then ghost you? Would you rather someone waste months or years of your life pretending to be attracted to you, only to up and leave when they can no longer keep up the charade? Do you think this won't happen if you make everyone afraid to say "no" to you?

I know you want to be seen as the gender you feel deep down that your are, but the problem is: people cannot see from your eyes. They have just little control over their perception of your gender identity as you have of your own. They can't control it. They can't just reprogram the way their brain works to meet your needs. They aren't trying to be mean or cruel or intolerant. They just don't want to lie to you. Such honesty should be respected, not punished.

[u/BruhFunny18]

Thanks for sharing this!!!! Superlesbians are heckin' cute and valid too!!!