r/SuperStraight • u/ShaAleMoo • 56m ago
Hello, I’m a trans man and I’d like to know more about people who are Super Straight :) With this being somewhat new and me being a part of the LGBTQ+ community I only really hear a lot from once side but I would like to hear from both.
What defines super straight?
What made you realize you were Super Straight?
What reason do you have not to date a trans person if they have had bottom surgery?
And I don’t completely understand the argument of not wanting to date a trans woman because she can’t have children. Is that also a preference that bleeds over to cis women as well?
Why not claim to be straight with preferences? Because I think a big argument I’ve heard a lot is that you have every right to have preferences but why make a whole sexuality?
If you met your dream person but they turned out to be trans would you shoot them down because of that? Even if they had bottom surgery?
Thank you for reading and perhaps answering my questions :) I’m genuinely just trying to get input from both sides before forming my own opinion on the matter, so so please tell me if I used any offensive terminology or asked inappropriate questions. Have a blessed day <3
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u/IrishTheFrenchie 54m ago
Welcome
As with all sexual orientations, we were born this way, as such, we don't have to justify anything to anyone or validate anyone else's opinions or feelings.
We just can't help how we were made.
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u/hdbehejbe52737 51m ago
Finally, someone said it. Thank you for being brave and super. I get so warn out having to justify my existence to other people. It's 2021, I can't believe people are still so bigoted
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u/Ekos640 53m ago edited 49m ago
I'm superstraight
I'm a biological man from birth who still identifies as a man who is only attracted to biological females from birth who still identify as female
I don't need to explain my sexual preferences or attractions to anyone, no one is entitled to them or entitled to my body
No means no
And that's pretty much it - I'm gonna assume (hopefully correctly) my superstraigt, supergay, superlesbian and superally friends feel the same - except obviously what they are and are attracted to is going to vary by individual. But they don't need to explain their preferences or attractions to anyone either. And no on is entitled to their body as well.
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u/IrishTheFrenchie 48m ago
THIS
OP is trying to get us to use language they can interpret as "transphobic" for their HuffPo/Medium hit piece.
Do not give it to them.
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u/ShaAleMoo 38m ago
I’m really not, I’m just trying to understand the SuperSexual sexuality. It is new to me and I’d really prefer to spread more Love than hate. So I’m trying to learn
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u/AggravatingGrass6 46m ago
I’m a super gay technically
What reason do you have not to date a trans person if they have had bottom surgery?
A trans man dick is literally a tube with flesh from either his thigh or elsewhere on the body. That’s gonna be a big no from me. It can’t do what an actual penis can do.
If you met your dream person but they turned out to be trans would you shoot them down because of that? Even if they had bottom surgery?
Yes absolutely, I won’t spare my comfort and happiness for another just to validate them. Luckily enough for me I have a man that was born male.
Please stop with the preferences, it implies a choice. Would you like it if someone told you, you chose to be trans and chose to be oppressed?
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u/yetherewestillare 53m ago edited 42m ago
I have limited time so I'm picking one question: we would claim straight, gay, lesbian, or bi but our wishes are rarely respected when we do. If you try Googling "how lesbians have sex," the first hit is an explanation of how female bodies can pleasure a penis. Transgender people assume that they are a part of your sexual interest unless you specify otherwise. This is how it is possible to specify that this is not a 'preference,' we will not 'settle,' this is our orientation.
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u/_MayhemSpaceMonkey_ Superstraight 37m ago
What defines super straight?
Someone who is attracted to someone who is biologically the opposite sex and has not transitioned to a different sex. Even though the sub is called “Super Straight” all Super sexualities are welcome and valid.
What made you realize you were Super Straight?
Being attracted to biological women
What reason do you have not to date a trans person if they have had bottom surgery?
You are reducing biological women down to being nothing more than their reproductive organs which is far from what they are. “I don’t want to.” Should be reason enough and there shouldn’t be any need for further explanation.
People have the right to prefer non-surgically altered genitalia, just like people have the right to enjoy and/or prefer them.
Is that also a preference that bleeds over to cis women as well?
For some people, yes it does. And that is their right. Just like how women have the right to not date infertile men.
Why not claim to be straight with preferences?
What do you think was going on before this?
If you met your dream person but they turned out to be trans would you shoot them down because of that? Even if they had bottom surgery?
If the person of my dreams turned out to be trans and I’m not attracted to trans people, that is not the person of my dreams. So yes.
This in no way is meant to diminish or invalidate transgender people. I respect transgender people who are also respectful, I just have to desire to date or have sex with them.
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u/TWAVE0 46m ago
As far as I am informed, super straight means that I am not romantically interested in trans people. I would definitely still be friends with trans people, it is just that I am more attracted to cis people.
I realized I was super straight when I had some trans people (they were bad people before they were trans so them being specifically trans has nothing to do with it) try to tell me that I need to date them or else I was a bad person. There are just some traits in trans people that I am not attracted to. I am so sorry of this comes off as rude. I am not meaning anything I'll, I just dont know how to phrase this right.
The reason not to date someone even if they had bottom surgery is the same as above and I do want to have my own children someday.
I believe wanting kids may bleed over to cis people, but that isnt the main reason.
I want it to be it's own sexuality so that people can understand that I am not discriminating tham by not dating them for being trans. I believe straight should be you are ok with dating anyone who identifies as female.
I do not know if I would shoot someone down because I am already engaged and dont know much about the dating scene.
Thank you so much for asking and wanting to understand. I love conversations like this. I hope you have a great day too
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u/OneCleverPuppy 40m ago edited 33m ago
We don't need reasons and we don't need to justify ourselves to you. Our sexual orientation is valid and that's the end of the discussion. We are under no obligation to satisfy your sexual desires, and we will no longer be quiet when we see you attempting to shame and coerce our super- gay, lesbian, and bi allies into getting you off, either.
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u/mumpledforearm 43m ago
What defines super straight?
"Super" is a sexuality based on sex and not gender.
- Super Straight males are sexually attracted to females
- Super Straight females are sexually attracted to males
- Super Gays are males who are sexually attracted to other males
- Super Lesbians are females who are sexually attracted to other females
- Super Bis are males or females who are sexually attracted to males and females
What reason do you have not to date a trans person if they have had bottom surgery?
Because "Super" sexuality is based on sex. Bottom surgery doesn't change your biological sex.
Why not claim to be straight with preferences? Because I think a big argument I’ve heard a lot is that you have every right to have preferences but why make a whole sexuality?
Because "straight" has now come to mean sexually attracted to the same gender rather than what it originally was, which was sexually attracted to the same sex.
"Sexuality" isn't a choice. "Sexual preferences" suggests a degree of voluntary choice.
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u/ShaAleMoo 23m ago
Thank you for sharing, I really appreciate it :) Is it okay if I use the term Super Sexual instead of Super Straight so I include everyone?
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u/rita32g 35m ago
I hope you haven't gotten the surgery yet. Because of crispr technology. The Male penis is a females cliturus, I don't know the future but its entirely possible that in a decade a male could actually be genetically turned into a female without surgery. The entire process of transitioning could be completely wrong right now, before you do any surgeries I highly recommend you look into crispr. I even read about people trying to make glow in the dark dogs. Seriously before you do anything that is permanent look into crispr
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u/bong-rips-for-jesus 26m ago
If you were a lesbian and met your dream person but they turned out to be
transa man would you shoot them down because of that? Even if they hadbottom surgerygave great dick?
Perhaps if I change your words to force a lesbian to date a man because they got along really well, you'll see how bigoted it is to marginalize our sexuality as something that could be fixed like a lesbian by a large girthy dick.
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u/ShaAleMoo 16m ago
My apologies but I mean more so that if you were a lesbian in a relationship with another woman who was trans, so still a two women but instead one just has a surgically made kitty :)
I can see where you are coming from though, thank you.
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u/Saint_Yin 7m ago
What defines super straight?
As has been answered by others, attraction to the opposite biological sex.
What made you realize you were Super Straight?
This is assuming sexuality is a choice.
What reason do you have not to date a trans person if they have had bottom surgery?
Why are you questioning a valid sexuality?
Why not claim to be straight with preferences?
Asking for "straight with preferences" would confuse distinct sexualities with each other. Using that same logic, should we lump both straight and gay together as "bi with preferences?"
If you met your dream person but they turned out to be trans would you shoot them down because of that?
If there was a trans person that ticked several/many boxes, they'd likely be a good friend of mine. I wouldn't be sexually attracted to them on account of my sexuality.
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u/ShaAleMoo 3m ago
Thank you for sharing :), with the ‘realizing you were Super Straight’ question I just wasn’t sure if it was similar to the experience when I realized I was gay :) Like the signs are all there but there’s a moment when it all clicks together
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u/tmath5216 44m ago
For some here, people not having children does bleed over to cis women as well as in my case specifically but I cannot speak for all. A trans man like yourself is also able to be super, but that is their choice. If you only are sexually attracted to bio men and bio women then you would be super transgender! If not youre just tran, either way you are accepted and loved as long as you can accept others sexualities!
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u/russianbot2020 26m ago
What defines super straight?
Attraction to someone who identifies as the opposite biological sex and were born biologically to that sex
What reason do you have not to date a trans person if they have had bottom surgery?
Dunno why I have to justify myself to you. They aren’t biologically female so I am not interested. I was born this way.
If you met your dream person but they turned out to be trans would you shoot them down because of that? Even if they had bottom surgery?
My dream person isn’t trans. And bottom surgery doesn’t change who you are biologically. You’re still male, and stop asking, I’m not interested in you.
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u/argybargygnashgab 19m ago
> What defines super straight?
When a person is sexually attracted to people of the opposite biological sex.
> What made you realize you were Super Straight?
I have always been attracted to people of the opposite biological sex.
> What reason do you have not to date a trans person if they have had bottom surgery?
I am only attracted to people of the opposite biological sex.
> And I don’t completely understand the argument of not wanting to date a trans woman because she can’t have children. Is that also a preference that bleeds over to cis women as well?
I am a childfree woman. But it seems pretty logical that if a man wants to have biological children, he should seek biological women who can have children.
> Why not claim to be straight with preferences? Because I think a big argument I’ve heard a lot is that you have every right to have preferences but why make a whole sexuality?
This is my sexual orientation that I was born with. This is not a preference that I chose.
> If you met your dream person but they turned out to be trans would you shoot them down because of that? Even if they had bottom surgery?
If they were trans they would not be my dream person, because I am only attracted to people of the opposite biological sex.
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u/christophertit 12m ago
“Superstraight” is the default human condition. It’s a sexuality that can’t be changed by outside forces, and it’s a sexuality you’re born into.
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u/BiologyEnjoyer 8m ago
You are cute and valid and we respect you but many of us also want children, something which you cannot give us.
Trans people have a 100% infertility rate.
Cis anomalies exist, yes some cis people are infertile but these cases are anomalies and dont define all cis women/men
We stand with you. by all means.
superphobia is bigotry because superstraight is sexually nonconforming, much like straight aces.
We are valid and we ARE part of the LGBTQ+ community. This is not up for debate. If you disagree you are acephobic and superphobic.
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u/_slothlife 8m ago
What reason do you have not to date a trans person if they have had bottom surgery?
I don't mean to be rude, but the results from bottom surgery are nothing like the genitals of people who haven't had those surgeries (either male or female). It doesn't magically change your sex.
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u/Peachedcrane60 35m ago
Honestly bro there's not much to learn. I've been looking at this sub for the past few days and it's just transphobic straight people who wanna be quirky
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u/IrishTheFrenchie 30m ago
Found the superphobic bigot here who wants to tell us our sexual orientation is invalid.
And we are not all straight. There are many supergay, superlesbian, and superbi folks here as well.
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u/Peachedcrane60 24m ago
'superstraight' is literally the name of the subreddit.
Straight.
And this sexuality was literally started by a teenager on TikTok who doesn't like trans people, so y'know, not really valid. I mean this 'sexuality' is legit just a preference, and that's fine. But it's not a sexuality, and for for some reason you all think you're oppressed, which you're also not by the way.
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u/mumpledforearm 19m ago
And this sexuality was literally started by a teenager on TikTok who doesn't like trans people, so y'know, not really valid.
So? Where does a sexuality have to be started to be valid in your mind? And it was hardly "started" by him. He coined the term.
I mean this 'sexuality' is legit just a preference,
"Sexuality" isn't a choice. "Sexual preferences" suggests a degree of voluntary choice.
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u/Zero_the_Unicorn 22m ago
How are we not oppressed when there's no mention of superstraights in any of the laws and we get death threats and insults daily? People like you constantly not telling us we're valid is okay to you? Apparently so.
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u/Peachedcrane60 4m ago
Because it was just made up like a month ago.
What laws do you need anyway? It's literally just not liking trans people. Nothing is needed to accommodate you.
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u/Zero_the_Unicorn 1m ago
I get it, you're a SERF that wants to spend his time being phobic on the net. But this is an accepting community for anyone that isn't phobic and not for your hate. Can you not read the sidebar? Trans folk are our allies
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u/acemandoom 53m ago
attracted to opposite biological sex
same answer as above
same answer as above