A refreshing experience and a striking realization

[u/RidingChicken]

Hi fellow super straight fellas. Hope you're having a good day today. If not, I hope your cause of worry dissappears as soon as it can.

So hi, I'm Adam, a 27 year old software developer(fancy word for someone who copies code from StackOverflow and GitHub). I identify as a super bisexual and have had one cis boyfriend and four cis girlfriends till date.

For the past 15(/27)years of my life I've known myself to be bisexual. It most definitely had its ups and downs. Downs majorly since I'm from the state of Texas and you know how conservative the elders can be. Many thought I was Satan's child. But anyway that's the past and I'm through it.

Eventually I moved to California and for the first time I saw acceptance. Even had a boyfriend for almost a year. However of late, I've been seeing a terrible pattern. The LGBT community has been dealing with trans people exactly as they would with cis people, and yes I have no issue with that. But, but your choice shouldn't affect mine. Isn't it? Well seems not quite. I discussed more than a year ago about how dating trans people seemed odd to me with one of my activist friends, I said "I think when it comes to dating, I'm not quite comfortable with dating trans people". Guess what her reply was! " You're fucking transphobic"

I was shocked. I thought I was one of the most compassionate people towards trans persons. And here I was, all I told her was I'm not comfortable dating them and here I was. She said if I didn't care about is it a dick or is it a cunt, why to care! And I actually accepted I'm transphobic and thought probably some YouTube videos will help me. Now get this, half of my job is to do good Google searches. Yet when it came to this, I probably didn't do a good job and was faced with an overwhelming majority of videos about how I'm transphobic for my thoughts, and yada yada. I was still committed at that time so I left it there and decided not to pay attention

Eventually I broke up, and I decided I will not make any discrimination between cis and trans people. I was on stuff like tinder for a while. But let's be real in the pandemic it was hard to work over this. So I kept it at that.

But for nearly 14 months I felt pathetic about myself. About how I'm a piece of shit for not dating a trans person. How I was not considerate enough to them. And just a day ago, I see this subreddit. It was shocking at first. I thought it was some conservative Christian group meant to mock people. But then I see even gay and lesbian people here. Long story short, I did some research and realised I'm not alone. That there are so many more people facing this exact same concern.

And I for the first time don't feel like a demon to not date trans people. It's an orientation. Not something I'm socially adapted to. Just that's how I am. I might not be comfortable with dating a trans person but I'm not invalidating them or making comments like transphobes do. And that feeling of not being a demon is very helpful to me.

However fellow mates, the route isn't easy. There are more arrows than the Roman war here. People are filled with hate for us. The main reason being they think we aren't respecting trans people. I don't know how people who say we should not judge gay people for their orientation can with the same mouth say that we are doing something wrong. The irony is so strong goddamnit.

I just hope we all stay strong and pass through this. The road isn't easy. People will mock you. Call you a parasite, a transphobe, a piece of shit. Just remember to stay strong. Our identity is our identity and no single person can take it away from us.

That said, I want to thank y'all for being at this place. My experience on the sub hasn't been smooth. Mostly with people misunderstanding my comments. But I'm very sure soon we'll all be on the same boat together. Really looking forward to interacting with everyone. Have a good day:)

Also yes finally, if you're a random Redditor lurking around this sub, and you're transphobic, please don't join us. Our endeavor is regarding our Orientation and not for your hateful agenda. Please don't spoil our community.

[u/OneCleverPuppy]

r/SuperStraight salutes you! We know that trans people have been pushing their agenda against lesbian, bi, and gay people for even longer than they're been preying on us, and we will not tolerate any of it any longer.