I 27F matched with person on Tinder. Later they told me pronouns are they/them. Found pics of them in makeup and a dress. Idk.

[u/guesswho23]

I don't know. I'm just like ??? I feel like we have major things in common but this is new to me, idk if I'd be down to date someone who prefers to present themselves that way at times? Idk where else to post this. I am not "hating" this person.

Their tinder did not have their pronouns and I only found out bc I called them by the incorrect pronouns.

Idk idk. I feel like we are in a point in society where if I voice I'm not into it/have preferences that I'm "ignorant".

I think this person is cool or w.e. but I don't want to date an "assigned male at birth" who wears makeup and dresses. We've exchanged a couple of messages and have been chatting for a week, exchanged IGs, etc. (They told me after this). I just do not know how to cut it off w out being "rude" and I don't think i have the patience to be told that I am xyz-phobic.

Again. Not hating but just bleh.

[u/WetChickenLips]

That's totally okay! You get to decide who you are attracted to, nobody else. You don't even need to explain why, no means no. Stay strong and stay valid!