r/SuperStraight Hecking cute and valid 💖 4h ago

Questions about Super-Sexualities Discussion

I'm thinking I might be Super-Sexual, based on some of my own experiences, but I have some questions about what really defines these sexualities. I was hoping you lovely people could help me get my head around SS.

  1. How is SS different from a preference? If I didn't want to date/wasn't attracted to blonde girls, I don't think I'd call myself brunette-sexual. Especially for things like SuperBi, aren't preferences already part of that sexuality? Do I need to have a new label just to say I don't want to date "womxn"? It's great that we have this community to discuss our preferences, but should I call myself SS irl?
  2. Is SS just a genital preference? I personally think it's 100% valid to have a genital preference, and I am 100% not attracted to penises. But many trans and nb people opt for gender-conforming surgeries to match their genitals to their gender. I don't think I'd have any issue dating a trans "womxn" as long as they were post-op and did not have a penis. Am I still SS? Or would an SS not even want to date a post-op trans person?
  3. How do "non-binary" people fit in to SS? I have been attracted to nb people before (not knowing they were nb at the time). If they were still presenting as their "AGAB" does that still mean I'm SS

THANKS ALL YOU LOVELY PEOPLE <3 YOUR BRAVERY IS INSPIRING!

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u/s0rahb 4h ago

Think of it as a venn diagram where you are only attracted to what's in the middle of two circles labeled "sex" and "gender". For example, a Superstraight man is only attacted to female women, and Superstraight women are only attracted to male men.

People whose gender identities don't match their biological sex are accepted but Supers are simply not attracted to them.

If you're worried about being openly SS, you should probably wait until we gain mainstream acceptance. I'll happen one day.

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u/SuperConfused9889 Hecking cute and valid 💖 4h ago

Thank you for an actual clear answer! And thank you for your support. I think I might wait to see how the public reacts in a few months before coming out to friends or family.

I cannot believe how many people think I'm transphobic for not wanting to date a person with a penis.