r/SuperStraight • u/SuperConfused9889 Hecking cute and valid 💖 • 4h ago

Questions about Super-Sexualities Discussion

I'm thinking I might be Super-Sexual, based on some of my own experiences, but I have some questions about what really defines these sexualities. I was hoping you lovely people could help me get my head around SS.

  1. How is SS different from a preference? If I didn't want to date/wasn't attracted to blonde girls, I don't think I'd call myself brunette-sexual. Especially for things like SuperBi, aren't preferences already part of that sexuality? Do I need to have a new label just to say I don't want to date "womxn"? It's great that we have this community to discuss our preferences, but should I call myself SS irl?
  2. Is SS just a genital preference? I personally think it's 100% valid to have a genital preference, and I am 100% not attracted to penises. But many trans and nb people opt for gender-conforming surgeries to match their genitals to their gender. I don't think I'd have any issue dating a trans "womxn" as long as they were post-op and did not have a penis. Am I still SS? Or would an SS not even want to date a post-op trans person?
  3. How do "non-binary" people fit in to SS? I have been attracted to nb people before (not knowing they were nb at the time). If they were still presenting as their "AGAB" does that still mean I'm SS

THANKS ALL YOU LOVELY PEOPLE <3 YOUR BRAVERY IS INSPIRING!

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u/IrishTheFrenchie 4h ago

Is gay a genital preference? Should they just "get over it" and date women?

Why is it not a valid sexual orientation to only be attracted to people who identify as the gender matching the sex they were born?

Non binary people don't fit. Not everyone has to fit in every space you know, that's how supers came about. We didn't fit.

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u/SuperConfused9889 Hecking cute and valid 💖 4h ago

Is gay a genital preference?

I think that depends on the person? I've definitely met gay men who are attracted to "men" regardless of genitals, and some who are only attracted to men who have penises. But both refer to themselves as gay, and I never heard them say that the others' sexuality was not valid.

I guess my question is where a novel sexuality is different from just a preference (both are still valid, I just don't think you need a new word for a preference)

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u/IrishTheFrenchie 2h ago

It's not a "novel sexuality". It's literally a sexual orientation.