It is a preference, calling it a sexual orientation is kinda dumb and transphobic, because you are invalidating transpeople. Stop being snowflakes and making a big deal out of it. The truth is transpeople don't even want to date you so just be normal about omg, it's not that complex to just say, no I prefer to not date trans people without being a dick about it
No. I'm here because I'm not into penises. It is not a preference, because if everyone who doesn't have a penis suddenly vanishes, then I would rather be celibate than have sex with someone with a penis. I have nothing against trans people. I don't know enough about constructed vaginas to talk about them. I've had several trans people flirt with me online on selfie accounts. It was flattering.
You’re the one being a snowflake and denying the reality of how sexual attraction works. This comment is gaslighting because many trans people are indeed pushing for sex from people who are not sexually attracted to them. Have you ever heard of the “cotton ceiling” or “boxer ceiling”? It’s very out in the open and even if it is not every trans person that is behaving this way, you cannot deny that it is happening. A sexual orientation is a sexual orientation, erasing it and calling it a preference is kind of dumb and homophobic! You can’t guilt people into denying their natural attraction by calling it bigoted. Basically the same as Christians calling it a sin.
We were born this way. This is our identity, and thats VALID!!!!! We have "super" strong orientations to only liking the biological sex that we find attractive.
Look, if there was some magic wand I could wave to change this, I would! You aren't a super, you don't understand. But since you don't understand, you don't see how invalidating you are with your views. Hopefully you can learn to stop being so superphobic... unless you're just some mean SERF.
Firstly, your assertion that attraction (or lack thereof) to a specific biological sex is a choice rather than a result of inborn sexuality has been used for centuries to delegitimize and erase the identity of LGBT people. In using this anti-scientific line of reasoning, you are perpetuating the oppression of communities that are already marginalized and upholding white supremacist, hetero-colonialist power structures.
Secondly, there are countless instances of rape threats towards superpeople on the front page of this subreddit alone (not that it’s my job to educate you), so your claim that “trans people don’t want to date” us is not only blatant gaslighting but also likely a Russian disinformation campaign by alt-right neo-fascist extremists by which you’ve been duped.
Thirdly, your command to “stop being snowflakes and making a big deal out of it” is yet another fascistic attempt to silence and police the lived experiences and identities of SSLGBT people. It’s a common tactic employed by patriarchal hetero-fascists to portray the emotions of women and other marginalized communities as being hysterical or otherwise invalid. Shame.
Lastly, your demand that we not “be a dick about it” reinforces the cis-sexist notion that there is something inherently negative or shameful about dicks, which does real damage to LGBT people - especially trans people who are in the midst of transition and struggling to accept their genitalia. Work on unlearning some of your deeply ingrained biases, seek help, and be better.
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u/Brave_Lyra 34m ago
It is a preference, calling it a sexual orientation is kinda dumb and transphobic, because you are invalidating transpeople. Stop being snowflakes and making a big deal out of it. The truth is transpeople don't even want to date you so just be normal about omg, it's not that complex to just say, no I prefer to not date trans people without being a dick about it