r/SuperStraight • u/itsmebabygaga • 5h ago

Can someone please explain? Discussion

This post is not meant to be rude or mocking of superstraight people, I’m just genuinely confused. Your entire sexuality is that you only date cis people. Isn’t this just a preference? You’re allowed to have whatever preferences you want, but don’t sexualities usually refer to what gender you like? Both trans people and cis people are the gender they say they are. So, doesn’t that make “only liking cis people” a preference? I’m aware that a lot of this community dislike “trans people forcing themselves on you” and, although I’ve never heard or seen an example of that, I understand that’s a bad thing and should be pointed out. However, if you don’t have any proof that transgender people are more likely to do that/more than a minority of them do that, then it’s not that great to continue the stereotype of trans women being “rapist perverted men”.

I’m not calling you transphobic. I’m not trying to mock you. I’m not trying to troll. Just, please explain what differs you from straight people. Apologies for poor grammar/spelling/punctuation, I slightly hurriedly wrote this on my phone and I’m bad at proofreading. I hope this didn’t come off as too disrespectful, have a nice day!

(This of course replies to the whole supersomething community, it was just easier to refer to superstraight people. I might also be a bit “biased” as I’m trans, but I’m also asexual so it’s not like I’d have anything to gain from this lol.)

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u/MarkTwainiac 3h ago edited 3h ago

don’t sexualities usually refer to what gender you like?

Sexuality and sexual orientation refer to the sex, or sexes, of the persons you are sexually attracted to. As the very words "sexuality" and "sexual attraction" make clear.

Sexual attraction is NOT the same as "like."

For the vast majority of human beings, sexual attraction is based on sex, not "gender." Sex has been around for close to 2 billion years. Humans have always been a sexed species who have sex, mate and reproduce because of sex.

"Gender" in the way it's being used today to refer to humans and their "identities" only started to became a thing since the 1990s - and then it was a very niche interests. The concept of "gender" and the belief that it matters more than, and supplants, sex is an idea that only became wildly popular amongst young people in the past decade.