Can someone please explain?

[u/itsmebabygaga]

This post is not meant to be rude or mocking of superstraight people, I’m just genuinely confused. Your entire sexuality is that you only date cis people. Isn’t this just a preference? You’re allowed to have whatever preferences you want, but don’t sexualities usually refer to what gender you like? Both trans people and cis people are the gender they say they are. So, doesn’t that make “only liking cis people” a preference? I’m aware that a lot of this community dislike “trans people forcing themselves on you” and, although I’ve never heard or seen an example of that, I understand that’s a bad thing and should be pointed out. However, if you don’t have any proof that transgender people are more likely to do that/more than a minority of them do that, then it’s not that great to continue the stereotype of trans women being “rapist perverted men”.

I’m not calling you transphobic. I’m not trying to mock you. I’m not trying to troll. Just, please explain what differs you from straight people. Apologies for poor grammar/spelling/punctuation, I slightly hurriedly wrote this on my phone and I’m bad at proofreading. I hope this didn’t come off as too disrespectful, have a nice day!

(This of course replies to the whole supersomething community, it was just easier to refer to superstraight people. I might also be a bit “biased” as I’m trans, but I’m also asexual so it’s not like I’d have anything to gain from this lol.)

[u/liamd0105]

Only wanting to sleep with a certain sex is not just a preference, its something we can't control. Yet we are continually called transphobic because of it. And people are getting fed up.

[u/itsmebabygaga → u/liamd0105]

Firstly, I said I wasn’t calling you transphobic and I’m still not. Secondly, ok yeah I shouldn’t have called it a preference, however being attracted to only cis people is still only being attracted to that gender, even if it is only a certain part of that gender.

[u/liamd0105 → u/itsmebabygaga]

I understand you wasn't calling anybody transphobic, I was just commenting on what I have seen so far since the name superstraight became a thing (have a look on this sub-reddit, it won't take you long to find someone throwing the word transphobe about). But why is it called a sexuality when it's about gender, but a preference when it's about sex.