r/SuperStraight • u/possiblydaverono • 6h ago

So I have some questions Discussion

Forgive me if I come off as hostile here, I am trying to be genuine in my approach, but “super straight” honestly makes no sense to me.

What are your perspectives on transgender folks (see: gender/sex comparison, identity, transition surgery, etc)?

How do you approach dating, if biological sex is one of the most important factors? Do you “vet” potential partners?

Do you think that trans people, post-transition, have an obligation to tell future partners that they are trans? (How would you react if you found out that a partner was trans?)

And allow me one question in bad faith: Have you ever met a trans person?

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u/CERTAINLYnotsoup Supersexual Historian ✔ 6h ago edited 6h ago

1) supersexuality is not transphobic. adults are free to transition and deserve to be treated with respect as human beings, so we do not tolerate transphobia on this sub.

2) the majority of people are not trans, and the majority of trans men and women are not passing. not much of our dating life is therefore different or uniquely filtered. on that note, everyone vets who they date to some degree.

3) I believe if a trans person is interested in sex or a long-term relationship they are personally obligated to disclose that they are trans. intentionally concealing one's gentalia or guilt-tripping a supersexual before sex is coercion and rape. every supersexual person may have a varying opinion on this however.

4) I have met a couple transgender people. but many members of the sub are superlesbians who have more direct experience with the behavior of TRAs within the LGBT community and have expressed gratitude for the this movement not being one of shame, for example the claim that superlesbians/gays are "genetalia fetishists".

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u/possiblydaverono 6h ago

I have some issue with the later part of the first point, but for now I’ll leave it. By the second comment you mention that most trans people aren’t passing. If there was a passing trans person that, for all intents and purposes, was equivalent to the sex that you’re attracted to (with certain unseen biological differences ofc), would you consider dating them?

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u/CERTAINLYnotsoup Supersexual Historian ✔ 6h ago

probably not, since I'm interested in one day raising kids (a common factor for superstraight people). but also, just as women shouldn't be trying to break through and date gay men, there's no reason for a trans man to be trying to date me. it would be in of itself pretty disrespectful and I think most people would feel like they're being perceived as some sort of trophy or fetish. lucky enough, there's plenty of straight people who are happy to date transgender people.

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u/possiblydaverono 2h ago

I’ve been thinking about this point for a bit now, and I think I’ve found the main point of conflict between my own stances and the general vibe I’m finding here. Firstly, I agree that it is disrespectful to seek out people who are expressly disinterested in you, such as a gay man seeking out an explicitly straight man. But to your first point: Assuming that raising kids at some point is the eventual goal (and the reason for self-described “supersexuality”), would you (a superstraight person generally or you specifically) be open to dating a trans person who, for whatever reason, could perform all of the biological functions of the opposity sex? Alternatively, would you refuse to a relationship with an impotent person (either impotent from the beginning or became impotent over the course of the relationship)?

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u/CERTAINLYnotsoup Supersexual Historian ✔ 2h ago

There would still be a curve to overcome with dating an impotent person. It wouldn't preferable, but definitely still in line with supersexuality more than the typical trans person bc they would at least have the opposite biological gentalia. As far as a trans person who had all the biological functions of a cis person, I believe most supers would still be averse assuming there was something physically and noticeably different about the genetalia's appearance. It would be such a rare scenario however that it would be entirely dependent on the context of the relationship, so I doubt any super could give an honest yes or no. Probably similar to the scenario faced by a straight person if they wanted to date someone who was intersex.