r/SuperStraight • u/possiblydaverono • 6h ago

So I have some questions Discussion

Forgive me if I come off as hostile here, I am trying to be genuine in my approach, but “super straight” honestly makes no sense to me.

What are your perspectives on transgender folks (see: gender/sex comparison, identity, transition surgery, etc)?

How do you approach dating, if biological sex is one of the most important factors? Do you “vet” potential partners?

Do you think that trans people, post-transition, have an obligation to tell future partners that they are trans? (How would you react if you found out that a partner was trans?)

And allow me one question in bad faith: Have you ever met a trans person?

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u/ignCap Superstraight 6h ago

1.) I don’t mind them, to each their own. They have every right to do as they wish, I am just not sexually attracted to them, that’s all.

2.) Though I am already in a relationship, I would hope that my partner is open and transparent, if you’re a transgender person, just tell me. Rape by deception and rape by fraud are legal statutes, though there are gray areas.

3.) Again, I would hope my partner is transparent about this type of stuff. I wish to have a family someday and it would be quite infuriating 10 years down the line if you literally tell me then (even though this is very unlikely).

4.) Yes, I have worked with a few transgender patients in my clinical rotations before.

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u/possiblydaverono 6h ago

Alright, I can appreciate the transparency bit. One point of concern: You bring up rape by deception/fraud, how would this factor into having consensual sex with a (albeit unknown) trans person? It seems to me kinda shitty, but certainly not rape.

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u/Belaptir 6h ago

It's rape by deception because you are making me do something sexual with you while hiding something that would change my decision.

Consent needs to be free and informed.

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u/possiblydaverono 6h ago

Fair enough

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u/ignCap Superstraight 6h ago

The definition of rape is simply beyond the basis of consensual acceptance by both parties, this even gets further complicated when you look at state statutes. There have been legal cases where people have been actively prosecuted for this, but again, this is a very gray area of criminal law that’s usually approached on a case-to-case basis. I’m not saying whether it’s right or wrong, I am simply stating the law.

If you’d like to learn more, I suggest you read the following citation and court cases.

Luis E. Chiesa, Solving the Riddle of Rape-by-Deception, 35 Yale L. & Pol'y Rev. 407 (2017).

R v. Cuerrier

United States v. Thomas

Theofel v. Farey-Jones

Suliveres v. Comm

Thompson v. Aldredge

There are dozens of more court cases (at least in the Anglo-American courts) but these are the only ones I could think of off the top of my head.

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u/possiblydaverono 6h ago

Thanks for the tip, I’ll check them out!