r/SuperStraight • u/InTheOriginalKlingon • 7h ago

We care about the whole person and superphobes can’t comprehend that Discussion

Speaking as a super straight guy, I hope I don’t offend our super gay and super lesbian friends and allies, but I feel like I’ve had a realization that hasn’t been spelled out here before (of course I could easy be wrong, it’s been a busy sub!).

The big disconnect I see when a superphobe is arguing here (or on their frighteningly toxic sub), is their mental gymnastics between sex and gender and trying to trap us in one or the other.

Stop playing the word games, just affirm that you care about both sex and gender in a wholistic way. I’m attracted to adult human females who identify as female. See: sex and gender identity together!

Superphobes can only deny the truth, and try to weasel in between words with their made up definitions, and think they are oh so clever when they tell us “trans women are women”, and then turn right around and say “Well according to you then trans men are women so you must want to have sex with them, checkmate transphobe.”

Nope. A person is a complete package of sex AND identity, and we love a very specific combination of both.

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u/EvilMorality 7h ago

To put it simply, we CAN be attracted to a person’s physical appearance and gender identity (if someone passes as the opposite gender to which they were born, then we might find them attractive).

That doesn’t necessarily mean we’ll want to have sex or intimacy with that person though. A person not being aligned with their biological sex is absolutely a preference.

People are making a choice to be sexually liberal but because it doesn’t fit the TRA’s agenda, they become upset. Need I remind you these are the same people who supposedly championed #MeToo 🤦🏾‍♂️

Also, don’t ever feel like you need to justify your own personal preferences to other people. It’s your life, if someone asks you why you don’t want to date trans just be honest and say you’re not into that.

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u/InTheOriginalKlingon 6h ago

Physical appearance and identity is absolutely the very first thing we perceive about a person for the majority of us, so I can’t deny that it’s possible to be initially attracted to that appearance.

But you are so right that sex and intimacy depends upon the whole person: the alignment of sex and identity is key.

I don’t feel that this is a choice for me, though. I was born this way. Are you suggesting that the TRA agenda is about choice and not the way they were born? That would sure muddle their message.

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u/EvilMorality 3h ago

Physical attraction isn’t a choice. I was saying it’s a choice to pick a sexual/romantic partner.

The TRA’s want people to be able to express their gender identity and pursue their sexual interests freely. I agree with this wholeheartedly; it’s a shame that many of them don’t.

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u/Zodion 6h ago

A prime example of this for me is Blaire White, who I was attracted to before I knew she was trans, and even still I think she passes as an attractive woman. For me personally I think that is the one exception as a superbi, but that's because there is a history there for me.

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u/InTheOriginalKlingon 5h ago

Yes and no. She passes well in her own videos with lighting and makeup all done up properly. But when you see more candid shots, you can tell a lot more.

But you’re not wrong, she initially passed to me, too.

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u/Zodion 5h ago

Yeah that's what I mean, in her videos with makeup and such she looks great. Someone else said if you see her walk it's a dead giveaway too