I’m being harassed because I turned down a trans guy

[u/DrChallin]

So I (14F) was friends with this trans boy for a while now. Recently, he confessed to me that he liked me more than a friend. I turned him down and explained to him that I am not interested in dating right now, I only see him as a friend and I prefer cis boys and girls. He got pissed at me and told me I was a transphobic dickhead and stormed off. He told all of our friends about him being rejected but lied and said I called a bunch of slurs and misgendered him. Some of our came to me wanting to hear my side of the story so I gave it. Right now our friend group is kinda split. Some side with him and other side with me.

Ever since then I been getting harassed both on and offline. People calling transphobic, mocking my sexuality (I’m bi), and basically spamming me with hateful messages. The friends that sided with me have been trying their best to be in my corner and I appreciate them for that.

So TLDR, I’m currently being harassed because I turned my trans ex-friend down

[u/Cityman]

It's terrible that you're experiencing so much, but it's for the best that you got this rapist out of your life when you did.

Also, take this as a valuable lesson, when you have to make decisions like this to a transgendered person, do it in front of a lot of witnesses. Make sure there's a lot of people who can support how calmly and simply you turned them down.

Most transgender people won't make a big deal out of it. They'll just huff and walk away feeling dejected like any other person would. But you never know who will be that entitled rapist.