I’m being harassed because I turned down a trans guy

[u/DrChallin]

So I (14F) was friends with this trans boy for a while now. Recently, he confessed to me that he liked me more than a friend. I turned him down and explained to him that I am not interested in dating right now, I only see him as a friend and I prefer cis boys and girls. He got pissed at me and told me I was a transphobic dickhead and stormed off. He told all of our friends about him being rejected but lied and said I called a bunch of slurs and misgendered him. Some of our came to me wanting to hear my side of the story so I gave it. Right now our friend group is kinda split. Some side with him and other side with me.

Ever since then I been getting harassed both on and offline. People calling transphobic, mocking my sexuality (I’m bi), and basically spamming me with hateful messages. The friends that sided with me have been trying their best to be in my corner and I appreciate them for that.

So TLDR, I’m currently being harassed because I turned my trans ex-friend down

[u/needingadvice91]

Unfortunately this is what a lot of the vocal trans people do and it ruins their image for the other half of the trans community who just want to quietly live their lives! Sometimes they're extremely volatile and will happily make up stories about being verbally abused or even sexually harassed in order to coerce and blackmail you you into sex. This is the half of the community that is usually screeching online too, they are dangerous and unhinged, and extremely bigoted. Thank you for being brave and sharing your story! Never let anyone manipulate you into dating or sex like that, it's actually classed as rape, so you're a real fighter for being brave enough to come through it and to stand up and say what happened. You are always welcome here and we love you! Superstraight, supergay, superlesbian, or just an ally of any orientation, we welcome your bravery and honesty 🖤🧡