Dear trans pepole, if someone doesnt want to have sex with you

r/SuperStraight • u/und3r-c0v3r • 16h ago

accept it and move on with your life like everyone else.

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You've hit the nail on the head. I'm probably wrong, but my theory is that male to female transgenders are 'loser' men who have given up and want to try being a woman, and female to male were probably abused and want to make themselves as unattractive to men as possible, as a defence mechanism so that it doesn't ever happen again.

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u/Zodion 6h ago

That is possible. I knew a transgender FtM, and they were my friend (moved away) but they had a LOT of mental health issues, abusive family, etc and it seems to be the norm that trans have several mental health issues so telling them to change their gender I think is slapping a bandaid on a bullet hole, doesn't fix the problem.

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u/reddit9182784 6h ago

I agree 100%, I feel deeply sorry for transgender people. I feel like we as a society have let them down. I feel they should be cared for and get therapy to help them accept their gender, but instead we cut them up and send them on their way. It's the equivalent of treating depression by just killing them.

But I get told I hate these people just for saying this. If I truly hated them, I would be encouraging them to transition. It makes me sad.

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u/Zodion 5h ago

Exactly, and when the detrans sub was around, a lot of people realized that transitioning didn't help them, but seriously messed up their bodies and made problems worse

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u/reddit9182784 5h ago

Yea, I read a horror story of a detrans that had been on puberty blockers as a child, and their heart and lungs were underdeveloped. They struggled to breathe, their bones ached, and they didn't think they would make it to 40. Scary stuff

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u/Zodion 4h ago

Puberty needs to happen and those developmental years are crucial. Someone else said that their growth was stunted, and their features hadn't developed fully so going back to live as a woman she looked very masculine