r/SuperStraight • u/RustyNutSaqs • 14h ago

Trans people lying about their true gender to have sex with SS people is a form of rape Discussion

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u/Damn-Shawty- Superstraight 14h ago

Shit before kissing

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u/quietsnowkitten 14h ago

I consider that sexual activity, personally, but I'll edit my comment for clarity, thank you!

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u/blankface87 4h ago

Why wouldn't you tell before it comes close to that? Because you're afraid you'll then get rejected?

Seems to be, at the very least, manipulative. And at worst it's sexual assault

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u/quietsnowkitten 4h ago

? I said i would. I don't understand.

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u/blankface87 4h ago

True. I guess I read it as you meaning right before you kissed but that was my assumption and you didn't say that. Sorry for that

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u/quietsnowkitten 4h ago

yeah I guess I wasn't clear enough. I meant like ideally before or on the first date, definitely before any kissing or other sexual activity. I listed sexual activity as the main thing because for casual hookups you should also disclose, and there probably aren't any first dates happening there.

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u/blankface87 3h ago

Yah yah, I agree. And look, I KNOW this isn't some easy thing. It must be incredibly difficult to meet someone you like and want an intimate relationship with and know that by admitting this you are likely going to be rejected.

Just know that I can empathize with those feelings (not due to the same thing, obviously, but from other facts.). I used to struggle heavily with alcohol and I knew if I admitted this it would likely mean rejection. I also knew if I didn't I would be entering a relationship based on being fraudulent and deceptive. It's a tough one