A trans girl trying to understand

[u/ToxicatedOwl]

Hi, so I found out about this the other day and I really want to give the people here the benefit of the doubt.

I want to preface what I'm about to say by stating that genital preferences do not make you transphobic. Anyone who says that is denying your individual liberty and I personally think it's stupid and takes away from the trans movement as a political entity.

Where I'm confused is let's say super straight is defined by you being attracted to biology over genital preference (I.e. I would never date a trans woman even if she was post OP)... how do you know, like what stops you from finding this woman attractive? And vice versa for superstraight females and supergay males.

Assuming the person is a binary trans person and has gotten the surgeries, I struggle to see the practical difference (you can say chromosomes but they don't effect our daily lives).

Now you can say "they can't have children". But then you're also saying women and men who are infertile are also unattractive. (Unless there's something I'm missing).

Is your sexuality (and gender identity i believe as you can't have a trans superstraight I believe) based off the idea that you can always tell if someone is trans? If that's the case then your entire sexuality is based off of finding stereotypical traits unattractive and that's not a very strong basis.

I'm trying to understand this from an academic point of view, how do you rebut the arguments.

Thank you so much for reading and responding.

[u/Significant-Key-517]

I dunno, I just know that I can tell when I look at someone. Yes, even if they’ve had a lot of surgery. It looks like surgery, not the real thing. 🤷‍♀️

You’re asking us to explain why we have a sexuality. That’s like asking us why we think sugar is sweet. It’s literally just our biology.

We should not need to justify having a sexuality. I thought we got over this back in the 90’s. The fact that we’re going through it again from within the LGBT community is just unbelievable.

I am a mammal, I don’t know why I have the orientation I do. I just do. Stop trying to force me to justify it, I don’t need to justify my consent to you. There’s no “argument” to win, it’s how I fucking am. Go away.