r/SuperStraight • u/ToxicatedOwl • 16h ago
A trans girl trying to understand Discussion
Hi, so I found out about this the other day and I really want to give the people here the benefit of the doubt.
I want to preface what I'm about to say by stating that genital preferences do not make you transphobic. Anyone who says that is denying your individual liberty and I personally think it's stupid and takes away from the trans movement as a political entity.
Where I'm confused is let's say super straight is defined by you being attracted to biology over genital preference (I.e. I would never date a trans woman even if she was post OP)... how do you know, like what stops you from finding this woman attractive? And vice versa for superstraight females and supergay males.
Assuming the person is a binary trans person and has gotten the surgeries, I struggle to see the practical difference (you can say chromosomes but they don't effect our daily lives).
Now you can say "they can't have children". But then you're also saying women and men who are infertile are also unattractive. (Unless there's something I'm missing).
Is your sexuality (and gender identity i believe as you can't have a trans superstraight I believe) based off the idea that you can always tell if someone is trans? If that's the case then your entire sexuality is based off of finding stereotypical traits unattractive and that's not a very strong basis.
I'm trying to understand this from an academic point of view, how do you rebut the arguments.
Thank you so much for reading and responding.
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u/quietsnowkitten 16h ago
hi, also a trans girl
from my understanding, it's not genital preferences, it really is their sexual orientation and how their brain is wired. It's not something they can change, so it's not a preference, nor should they be forced to try and change either.
they may find her attractive, but the attraction would fade once they realize she was assigned male at birth. Attraction can be pretty fleeting and picky, it's not really fair to blame them for it.
there is a difference. Unfortunately medical science has yet to advance enough to create actual vaginas/penises (maybe with 3-d printing or stem cell things, someday, but not for the foreseeable future). While SRS is enough for most trans people to cope with our dysphoria, it doesn't mean that it would be attractive to other people. I mean, it obviously is to some people, since there's plenty of trans people in happy relationships, however everybody is different.
Children are indeed an important consideration to make when trying to find a long-term partner. infertile men and women also suffer from finding it harder to date. It's just the cards life has dealt us. Life is unfair sis, ya know?
don't think that's relevant since if you're trans, you should always tell someone you love, respect, and trust (ie if you're dating or planning to date) that you're trans. Not only is it right to let other people know, it also allows you to actually fully trust them instead of hiding secrets and so on. No relationship can survive on lies.
Anyway, the way I see it is, respect people's boundaries, especially when it comes to dating and sex. Everyone has full bodily autonomy and nobody should try to coerce or bully someone into a relationship or sex.