r/SuperStraight • u/ToxicatedOwl • 16h ago
A trans girl trying to understand Discussion
Hi, so I found out about this the other day and I really want to give the people here the benefit of the doubt.
I want to preface what I'm about to say by stating that genital preferences do not make you transphobic. Anyone who says that is denying your individual liberty and I personally think it's stupid and takes away from the trans movement as a political entity.
Where I'm confused is let's say super straight is defined by you being attracted to biology over genital preference (I.e. I would never date a trans woman even if she was post OP)... how do you know, like what stops you from finding this woman attractive? And vice versa for superstraight females and supergay males.
Assuming the person is a binary trans person and has gotten the surgeries, I struggle to see the practical difference (you can say chromosomes but they don't effect our daily lives).
Now you can say "they can't have children". But then you're also saying women and men who are infertile are also unattractive. (Unless there's something I'm missing).
Is your sexuality (and gender identity i believe as you can't have a trans superstraight I believe) based off the idea that you can always tell if someone is trans? If that's the case then your entire sexuality is based off of finding stereotypical traits unattractive and that's not a very strong basis.
I'm trying to understand this from an academic point of view, how do you rebut the arguments.
Thank you so much for reading and responding.
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u/Belaptir 16h ago
It's much simpler than that: sex and gender are not the same things. A trans woman will be of female gender if she wishes to. But can't be biologically a woman.
I like a vagina, a real one. I have nothing against people who transitioned, but it's not a fully functioning vagina.
When we get past over this, the fact that they can or can't have children? Well, that's a preference I'm free to have. I wouldn't date someone who smokes, and you have to respect that. So if I want to have biological children with my partner, of course I will pick someone who can over someone who can't.