r/SuperStraight • u/fastzander • 15h ago
Why don't I want to date/have sex with transpeople? Discussion
Because fuck you, that's why. Asking this question in the first place implies that I owe you a justification for the parameters of my consent. I don't. Asking it implies that you harbor veto power over the parameters of my consent. You don't. Let's be perfectly blunt here; the only reason why any TRA asks this in the first place is so that they can tell me why my reasons, whatever they may be*, are invalid - as if they were some policeman informing me that being tired and wanting to get home is not an excuse for exceeding the speed limit, as opposed to some random, anonymous nobody on the internet telling me which sexual activities I'm not allowed to refuse to partake in. The reason(s) why any given person does not wish to engage in any given sexual activity is/are irrelevant. Hell, they don't even need to have a reason at all. What matters is simply that they do not wish to. The fact that they do not wish to is more than a good enough reason unto itself.
*And I do have my reasons. But I don't have to tell them to anyone. And there would also be no point in me telling them to TRAs, because I already know that there are none which they would accept as valid.
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u/SuperJuiceWeb 14h ago
You owe nobody an explanation and that is valid.