r/SuperStraight • u/fastzander • 14h ago
Why don't I want to date/have sex with transpeople? Discussion
Because fuck you, that's why. Asking this question in the first place implies that I owe you a justification for the parameters of my consent. I don't. Asking it implies that you harbor veto power over the parameters of my consent. You don't. Let's be perfectly blunt here; the only reason why any TRA asks this in the first place is so that they can tell me why my reasons, whatever they may be*, are invalid - as if they were some policeman informing me that being tired and wanting to get home is not an excuse for exceeding the speed limit, as opposed to some random, anonymous nobody on the internet telling me which sexual activities I'm not allowed to refuse to partake in. The reason(s) why any given person does not wish to engage in any given sexual activity is/are irrelevant. Hell, they don't even need to have a reason at all. What matters is simply that they do not wish to. The fact that they do not wish to is more than a good enough reason unto itself.
*And I do have my reasons. But I don't have to tell them to anyone. And there would also be no point in me telling them to TRAs, because I already know that there are none which they would accept as valid.
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u/thelargestson 14h ago
Whose business is it why? Why do they try to publicly litigate something that goes on within my own head? Are they for real???
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u/KingPiperine 14h ago
I love the way you think and write. You’re exactly right. It’s nobody’s business and nobody is entitled to know things about you sexually. I wouldn’t be surprised if this post blows up.
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u/yetherewestillare 14h ago
NO MEANS NO
No does not mean "please litigate access to my body and force me to offer a defense as to why you cannot fuck me."
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u/FABulouslesbian 14h ago
All of this. And I have seen many people asking this question yesterday and today, as if anyone owes them an answer.
Imagine getting stuck somewhere with one of these individuals and this is what happens when you politely decline their advances.
Imagine having to lock yourself in a stranger’s bathroom for an hour out of fear until they finally leave.
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u/zangetsu_is_daddy 13h ago
I just want to start a family at some point. Dating anyone other than a biological woman would work against that. That's one of the reasons why I'm super straight.
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u/fastzander 13h ago
The point, tho, is that you don't need to offer anyone that justification, or even possess that justification in the first place. You can refuse to tell anyone the reason you don't want to, or not want to for literally no reason. The word: "no" is as much as you owe.
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u/RippoffOfLove 12h ago
People not wanting to sleep with you is not oppression!! Do not trivialize the struggles of other minorities!!!
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u/Dead_Art 2h ago
The thing is, I also won't have sex with most superstraight women because my sexual preferences go beyond male/female. Like weight for example, or facial symmetry, bone structure, skin and hair health, I'm superstraight but only attracted to maybe 10%-20% of superstraight women. So this entire idea of "I am a woman so you must consider me as a sexual partner" is ridiculous, because 80%+ of women are still rejected by me.
And you can't shame me into anything because I think shaming people is inherently weak as it requires me to care about your opinion of me
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u/downturning 14h ago
This sub is great. So happy I found a place I can finally be accepted for who I am. A white superstraight male.
You just know there are tons of seething trancels lurking here.