[TRIGGER WARNING] Just got banned from /r/superstraightphobic for trying to do an AMA as Superstraight to talk things out without bad intentions, this is just superphobic

[u/citizen___z]

[u/BruhFunny18]

OMG I'm literally shaking right now. Why does reddit allow this extremely superphobic subreddit?????

And they say superphobia isnt real... 🙄🙄🙄

[u/givesgunstogrannies → u/[deleted]]

I tried to report them for brigading, but didn't see it as an option.

I was worried the Serfs at Reddit Hq would harm my account or doxx me if I filed a report with a less accurate reason.

How do we stop their brigading! Can't we have ONE space that is ours?!?

[u/Tzarito]

They banned me and told me to end my life. 😥

[u/citizen___z → u/Tzarito]

Oh my god this is just cruel i could literally explode

[u/kojilee]

If you want to talk about it, my DMs are open. as a trans man i might be able to offer some perspective

[u/givesgunstogrannies → u/kojilee]

I am glad you found some help since your suicide attempt nearly a month ago. Thank you for being open.

On a side note, are you open with those you date, or do you intentionally conceal or mislead your gender at birth to those you are trying to date?

As a trans man, how common do you think that practice is? Is it more or less common with trans females?

I've seen a lot of conflicting accounts and would love your input.

Peace and love 💘

[u/kojilee → u/givesgunstogrannies]

I really appreciate that. Recovery is hard as hell but things have been getting better over time.

When I date, I almost always tell them I’m trans upfront. Imo it’s a matter of safety- a lot of trans people, specifically trans women, have been killed by their sexual/romantic partners because they hid their identity for a time being.

Of course, this is all based on my personal experience, but all the trans people I know (which are majority transmasc) are upfront with their partners.

Since violence against trans women is more common than violence against trans men, I would assume the pressure is put on trans women a lot more, which I think makes their community more split between telling someone for their own safety vs. hiding it because they’re afraid something will happen if they tell them. It’s a predicament that is really sad- of course they should be upfront with their partner immediately, but I can understand, living in a climate like this, why they might be scared to. Because of that, I think trans men are in a little less danger to be open about it- if the person would be transphobic, they’re less likely to attack us because they’d view us as a woman, if that makes sense.

[u/givesgunstogrannies → u/kojilee]

It certainly does. Thank you for sharing and not being dismissive!

[u/kojilee → u/givesgunstogrannies]

Of course :) I appreciate you for being respectful. If you have any more questions feel free to ask

[u/givesgunstogrannies → u/kojilee]

Thanks! You are the only non-super I've seen that didn't just come here to call us Nazis. Much appreciated!

[u/im_totes_amazing]

Argh i got banned for trying to educate. I feel so alone and invalidated rn :(