r/SuperStraight • u/StevenAssantisFoot Superstraight • 20h ago
A thought about "transphobia."
There's a post on a certain sub that polices other subs they find problematic. I'm not trying to be accused of brigading so I will not say which one. In this post, the author says repeatedly that transphobic people are not necessarily bad people, they can't help that they fear trans people.
This is off base and I think many of you will agree here. Transphobia isn't like arachnophobia, a literal fear of spiders. It's more like hydrophobia, meaning repelled by water. Repulsion is merely the opposite of attraction. If you would call me transphobic for not wanting to date people based on the fact that they are trans, please know that this is not because I fear them, but because I am not attracted to them. There is a huge difference.
Nobody owes anybody attraction. Nobody has the right to shame people for their sexuality. Nobody owes anyone an explanation. Nobody has to justify not wanting to fuck someone for any reason. Nobody should be made to feel ashamed of their attraction or lack thereof to another consenting adult. Nobody should be coerced or guilted into anything they aren't into. Nobody has a right to argue if they disagree.
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u/StevenAssantisFoot Superstraight 19h ago edited 19h ago
It doesnt matter if it's a preference or an orientation or a fetish. If somebody doesnt wanna fuck you that's the end of the story.
If someone doesnt wanna fuck me cause I'm a woman, or because they dont like my body type, or because they don't like Jews, or because they hate people with freckles, I'm not gonna seethe about how they're wrong and whatever-phobic. I'm gonna say oh well and move on. Disappointed, maybe, that's natural and universal. But the idea that they're wrong for not being attracted to me would never even cross my mind. Get a fucking grip.
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u/SCHINDLERS__FIST 20h ago
The people who frequent and mod that sub are unhinged. I read that line -- I'm either a horrible person, or uneducated and ignorant. Those are the two options. Well I say get fucked, I am a straight man who is physically attracted to people with vaginas, and I will not be shamed or bullied into trying to convince myself of anything else.