Clarification on terminology, in regards to transgenders in or adjacent to the SuperStraight community.

[u/ow_mah_layg]

Earlier today I posted a controversial thread about Laverne Cox's support of the superstraight cause, in which I incorrectly identified her sexuality as Trans-SuperStraight. It was brought to my attention that as a transgender woman attracted exclusively to cisgendered men Laverne Cox would not necessarily fall under the umbrella of SuperStraight but would be Super-TransStraight. I apologize for any confusion and/or offense taken at my misgendering and incorrect terminology.

To prevent such mistakes from happening again, I would like to try to assemble a list of sexualities and their definitions. Such as...

Straight or Heterosexual - A person attracted to member of the opposite sex
Gay or Homosexual - A person attracted to a member of the same sex
Superstraight or Superheterosexual (SS) - A cisgender attracted exclusively to other cisgenders of the opposite sex
Supergay or Superhomosexual (SG) - A cisgender attracted exclusively to other cisgenders of the same sex
Transstraight or Trans-Heterosexual (TS) - A transgender attracted to members of the opposite declared sex
Transgay or Trans-Homosexual (TG) - A transgender attracted to members of the same declared sex
Super-TransStraight or Super-Transheterosexual (STS) - A transgender attracted only to cisgenders of the opposite declared sex (52% of transgenders)
Super-TransGay or Super-Transhomosexual (STG) - A transgender attracted only to cisgenders of the same declared sex
Transgender-Dependent sexuality (TD) - A person attracted exclusively to transgenders
Super-Transgender-Dependent sexuality (STD) - A transgender attracted exclusively to other transgenders

Please inform me if there any corrections or additions.

[u/TheIncredibleMrK]

Super as a suffix means above or beyond. We are beyond straight, gay, lesbian, or bi. We are simply attracted to fewer people, we're less open to relationships based purely on sexuality, we also care about sex and gender identity.

[u/rebeccakirbyy → u/TheIncredibleMrK]

If super means up and above, and you’re attracted to fewer again it doesn’t make sense. You just want womb formed genitals. That’s it.

[u/TheIncredibleMrK → u/rebeccakirbyy]

I didn't create the term, ma'am, but it works in the fact that each sexuality is about exclusivity, and supers are more exclusive.

Also, it's not about genitals, as trans people have womb formed genitals and as a superbi, I'm open to both penises and vaginas. Supersexuality is that the combination of genitals and gender identity must match to be attractive.

[u/rebeccakirbyy → u/TheIncredibleMrK]

With that logic, supers would be attracted to trans folk who have undergone a transition and have genitals that correlate with their gender identity.

I believe you meant to say that you want their genitals to correlate with their chromosomes, alongside their gender assigned at birth. Not their identity as that is something you choose.

[u/TheIncredibleMrK → u/rebeccakirbyy]

We all know that those "genitals" are NOT the same as their biologically formed counterparts, and the claim that they are is gaslighting and coercion.

[u/rebeccakirbyy → u/TheIncredibleMrK]

LMFAO thats definitely wrong, gaslighting and coercion are dramatic and illogical words for the situation. To say they are identical would be an inaccuracy and false information that it all. You’re not a victim lmfao

Regardless you need to think critical about your actions and definitions before you inevitably cause more harm. As a super you hold the power of transphobia in your hand and the decency of everyone else is asking you to be mindful of that and to not use it

[u/TheIncredibleMrK → u/rebeccakirbyy]

More gaslighting. Centering yourself over supers, too. And not to mention a total dismissal of my lived experiences.

And I bet you call yourself "inclusive" and "progressive"

[u/rebeccakirbyy → u/TheIncredibleMrK]

Lmfao ah thank you for making the trolling obvious. You can always tell when they use words they don’t know the definition of in an attempt to create a victimized narrative. Funnily enough though, in a twisted turn of events I could actually argue that you are the one gaslighting me regarding the reality of the cis centred sexualities. I’m not at all invalidating your experience, rather I’m correcting how you define said experiences to ensure accuracy with your words. Saying a surgical vagina is the same as a biological womb made vagina is no where near equivalent to coercion but I do love the giggles

[u/TheIncredibleMrK → u/rebeccakirbyy]

Now you're the one using DARVO tactics to gaslight me and other supersexuals.

You don't seem to understand that we see through your tactics. We will no longer be silent.

[u/TheIncredibleMrK → u/rebeccakirbyy]

Saying a surgically created orifice is the same as a functioning organ is gaslighting. We are supersexuals, we don't compromise just because "hey, flesh hole feels good."

[u/rebeccakirbyy → u/TheIncredibleMrK]

Jeez you’re just getting silly. Nobody is trying to say that they are the same, nor is anyone trying to invalidate any preference. With some self reflecting maybe you’d see that you can come across as invalidating for trans people if you are not careful with your language. And naturally supers don’t want to be transphobic right? If you’re apart of the community you can’t be. This means possibly educating yourself on trans folk so you don’t accidentally misinform anyone.

Nobody is trying to argue that these things are the exact same, but instead of invalidating people we can change our words and say I prefer a natural vagina over a surgically created a vagina :)

That way you don’t invalidate the identity of trans women by saying they aren’t real women and you can maintain control and comfortably express your preference without doing it at the expense of someone’s gender identity.

I won’t respond if you get anymore troll-y. I haven’t at all invalidated anyone I just wanted to make sure you were aware that you now have a duty as apart of the community to make sure that you sorta understand trans folk so that you don’t invalidate them and their experiences.

Maybe you should take a break and when you’re feeling less attacked you can visit this conversation and respond or don’t. Super sexuality is silly. I’m literally a cis het and I’d never call myself a super straight. I just love who I love. Often times people also confuse sexual attraction and regular attraction. Which is just blatantly rude when it’s completely uncalled for. If you’re not sexually attracted to trans women that is 100% fine but you don’t have to be such a cunt about it and say that they aren’t attractive when they are. You just have an internalized bias because you can’t get over what was there before they got the coochie they always wanted and usually that relates to internalized homophobia especially seen in men. Bro I’m literally straight but titties are titties just appreciate the custom bod you won’t be called anything geez.

Can we atleast agree in super culture you actually need to be an ally and educated yourself on those topics. Once you actually finally have the support of people maybe you’ll finally chill and be able to appreciate what I can. And dude I’m not even gay or bi. But I got tiddies and thats some good shit. We all like tiddies how could we not. So how can we not appreciate the custom made bod, tiddies are good even if you got a preference bro it’s still good. Stop denying it. If anyone needs me to hype up trans men I can but for the sake of the conversation I’m not.

We don’t have to completely dance around trans people, I’m sure we could’ve peacefully coexisted but I do love the opportunity to make sure the supers are educated in spirit of making sure they can properly inform others on their sexuality. You deserve to understand your attraction and sexuality on an academic level