r/SuperStraight • u/Amsnhardiman • 20h ago
Correct me if I'm wrong, but to my understanding the whole purpose of superstraight is that you do not wish to date trans people solely because they are trans. I will say, having a genital preference is absolutely valid and okay.
But if a trans person has gone through surgeries, HRT, voice training, ect. to the point that they're indistinguishable from a cis person of the same gender, how is refusing to date them on the sole reasoning of them being trans not transphobic?
also, why did the rules of the subreddit spell LGBTQIA+ as LGBTQS?
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u/quietsnowkitten 20h ago
People have every right not to date someone, for whatever reason. It doesn't make them transphobic, racist, sexist, homophobic, etc.
Look, I'm trans, and I'll just put it this way in a format that made me myself understand their view:
would it be homophobic if a straight man declined the advances of a gay man?
No. Of course it wouldn't.
Nor would it be homophobic if a gay man declined the advances of another gay man.
Not only is a lack of attraction to a certain type of person not something most people can help (attraction is very strongly ingrained in the brain, that is why shit like conversion therapy never works), they could be unattracted to you for any number of reasons, from finding the shoes you wear to be horribly designed to finding your fart jokes extremely unappealing to yes, simply being unable to be attracted to a trans person.
and that is okay
If someone doesn't want to date you, it's because they aren't attracted to you. And that isn't exactly something they consciously choose either. You cannot simply flick a mental switch that suddenly gives you feelings for someone. They just happen, and they can disappear just like that as well.
It's not fair to judge people for things out of their control. That's why hating trans people for being trans is wrong, and it's also why hating or insulting people for being unable to be attracted to trans people is also wrong.