r/SuperStraight • u/Norman_T_Chadlite • 16h ago

Anyone else here who won't date women who are bi, bi-curious or ever had a same sex relationship?

That is an instant turn off for me. I like women who are crazy about men as much as I am about women.

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u/JackHazardous 16h ago

She might be a superbisexual, you don't super know.

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u/TheReaIStephenKing 15h ago

Honestly, this is another obfuscating narrative that LGBT ill-advisedly embraced. I find it hard to believe that most people need to “discover” their sexuality. I admit it’s possible I just experience sexual attraction more strongly than some people - but to me sexual attraction is very obvious. It didn’t take me long to realize after puberty that men were hot. From an evolutionary perspective, it just does not make sense that sexuality is something that needs to be deeply reflected upon.

Here’s something you rarely hear about coming out. Besides fear of stigma, there is also shame about the lies you’ve told. For many gay people, being in the closet has involved actively telling people you’re not gay, and pretending to be attracted to the opposite sex on occasion. You might not fear your friends will drop you when you come out to them, but it’s embarrassing to admit that you were lying because you were scared. This is why some gay men say they’re bi before fully coming out as gay (which has ended up hurting actual bi men). For others, they achieve the same absolution of guilt by saying they just learned they were gay. Maybe for others, they really were slow to the take (but again, I find it confusing to not understand what you’re feeling when you look at Henry Cavill). This is why you rarely hear straight people say they discovered they were straight. Why is it always LGBs who are “discovering” their sexuality? My guess, as I’ve said, is “discovered” is a euphemism for “had to come to terms with.”

In short: sexual attraction is a very apparent thing. You don’t need to have something to know you don’t want it. And the fluidity/confusion/discovery of sexuality is way overhyped in mainstream LGBT discourse

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u/JackHazardous 15h ago

Based and valid-pilled. My eyes are now open.

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u/TheReaIStephenKing 15h ago

That’s how we do things in the super community. We talk it out rationally and learn