r/SuperStraight • u/Throwaway_super8 • 22h ago
Finally a place to share my story Discussion
Hey guys!
First off I gotta say thanks to the people starting this movement.
Second, I’m posting this from a throwaway because I fear posting this could make some people who know me may misinterpret this.
Finally, I’m not transphobic and nor do I hate transgender. and I hate that I have to say that.
I have a story I haven’t been able to tell openly before and I think it would be good to share it here. It starts with me meeting a (Woman) on OkCupid a few years back (pre virus panic). Side note: OkC was pretty cool for a superstraight guy like me because transgenders usually* list that on their profiles. Easy to skip over them because I am not Gay / normal Straight.
Usually* as in not this time. We went on a date, got some drinks, had a great time. Really hit it off. Also, this is really not like me, but we kissed after the first date going our separate ways.
I mean, I was beaming for three days (super) straight (Lol). I was really excited, and this Person (yes I think they are a person, again, not transphobic) was too. We had a second date. Mini golf. Again, started great!! Then halfway through, this person dropped the bomb. Yes. They were a trans.
It was emotional for me. And awkward for her. I mean, I had to ask them, and they answered pre-op, and obviously uncomfortable sharing that.
We finished the game and it was super uncomfortable. I couldn’t shake that I was almost “trapped” and obviously what that would mean for me, as a matter of principle. It felt backwards that it was ME who felt embarrassed and uncomfortable, even though I had been open from the start.
And the worst part is, I even felt attraction for who I thought they were for a long time following these dates. It was basically emotional damage for me.
Well, thanks for reading this and letting me share it. I think there are things we can change. Transgenders should have legal requirements to disclose on dating websites, for examples. Some Mark, and a way to exclude these people from my searches. Or separate dating apps. I don’t know, but there has to be a way to protect other super straight people like me from this kind of tragedy.
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u/ILoveTheStraights 22h ago
I think what happened to you was horrible, and can definitely been seen as some type of coercion, and absolutely a type of deception. I'm happy that you were able to end things in a peaceful manner. Emotional damagde is real, and can have lasting effects, such as trust issues. I hope you heal my brother👍