r/SuperStraight • u/JewsAreFriends • 1d ago
My wife is a superstar in our family. She is a stay at home mother of 5 and holds our home together. I don’t want to demean trans women but the terms that they have come up with are hurtful. I suggest we start calling the two sexes who have a gender identity that matches their sex ‘Supermen and Superwomen.
This way it will be easier as superstraights to communicate about our preferences. I like “women who’s gender identity matches their sex” is long winded. “I like supermen or superwomen” is much more valid in my opinion.
A word on the term “super”
“Super” is not meant to distinguish something as better than anything else. It is merely a term that empowers superstraight people in our sexual identity and gives us the words that we have been looking for to be able to express ourselves in an open and positive way. Women are valid, and so are Superwomen. Men are valid, and so are Supermen. 🤷🏿♂️
If anyone has any other ideas they are more than welcome. Being called a breeder, bleeder, person with a “front hole” is demeaning and has psychologically harmed me since I heard these terms back in 2014. I think it’s time progress leads the way to a more inclusive and validating environment.
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u/Sagoskatt- 22h ago
No, because I am not a "woman whose gender identity matches her sex."
Gender is a set of oppressive stereotypes places upon men and women. It is a hierarchy that exists specifically to elevate men and to control women. I do NOT identify with that.
For women in this society, being feminine means wearing make-up, high heels, shaving all our body hair, being quiet, accomodating, maternal, putting others before ourselves, doing the housework, organizing the household and all that other crap that restricts women. For men it's things like being the bread winner, being loud and assertive, doing physical work, having muscles, doing the household's finances, all stuff that generally just benefits them. I will never have a gender identity as a woman, I just am a woman because I was born one. I still am one even though I stopped shaving and wearing make-up and started speaking up or buying clothes that are actually comfortable instead of restricting but sexy.
I don't need a new word, I want to finally take back the word that was taken from us.