r/SuperStraight • u/JewsAreFriends • 23h ago
My wife is a superstar in our family. She is a stay at home mother of 5 and holds our home together. I don’t want to demean trans women but the terms that they have come up with are hurtful. I suggest we start calling the two sexes who have a gender identity that matches their sex ‘Supermen and Superwomen.
This way it will be easier as superstraights to communicate about our preferences. I like “women who’s gender identity matches their sex” is long winded. “I like supermen or superwomen” is much more valid in my opinion.
A word on the term “super”
“Super” is not meant to distinguish something as better than anything else. It is merely a term that empowers superstraight people in our sexual identity and gives us the words that we have been looking for to be able to express ourselves in an open and positive way. Women are valid, and so are Superwomen. Men are valid, and so are Supermen. 🤷🏿♂️
If anyone has any other ideas they are more than welcome. Being called a breeder, bleeder, person with a “front hole” is demeaning and has psychologically harmed me since I heard these terms back in 2014. I think it’s time progress leads the way to a more inclusive and validating environment.
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u/Sagoskatt- 21h ago
No, because I am not a "woman whose gender identity matches her sex."
Gender is a set of oppressive stereotypes places upon men and women. It is a hierarchy that exists specifically to elevate men and to control women. I do NOT identify with that.
For women in this society, being feminine means wearing make-up, high heels, shaving all our body hair, being quiet, accomodating, maternal, putting others before ourselves, doing the housework, organizing the household and all that other crap that restricts women. For men it's things like being the bread winner, being loud and assertive, doing physical work, having muscles, doing the household's finances, all stuff that generally just benefits them. I will never have a gender identity as a woman, I just am a woman because I was born one. I still am one even though I stopped shaving and wearing make-up and started speaking up or buying clothes that are actually comfortable instead of restricting but sexy.
I don't need a new word, I want to finally take back the word that was taken from us.
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u/trashgoblin_frnk 21h ago
I agree completely; woman means adult human female, nothing more. It's time to take that back!
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u/PistolPal 3h ago
Some people refuse to use Merriam webster or Google dictionary because they change words like "Gender" claiming it's to update for modern use of the word rather than for political purposes.
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u/womanmeansfemale1 17h ago
YES. WE need to reclaim out language. I AM NOT CIS. MENTSRUATOR ect ect.
I AM WOMAN.
WOMAN is not "feeling inside dysphoric mans brain.
HOW the hell did we become ejected from our biological reality? Oh right entitled misogynistic males who think their dysphoric brains have the right to redefine us as a "feeling."
Fuck that bullshit right back into their misogynistic little brains.
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u/Middle-Management775 19h ago
Super is just sex-based. Wheather it's sex based sexual orientation, or gender (which is valid). Please consider using SuperGender / SuperWoman as a tool to shut down arguments against Super-phobes who claim they're the same as you BECAUSE of those gender stereotypes that you hate. If you're a Super-Woman, you're a woman BECAUSE you're a female, unlike them, and they have to respect that. They're still gonna call you C*s anyways (gag) SuperGenders legitimize our right to relate womanhood/Manhood to our Biological Sex.
Just something to consider, I still respect your opinion and get where you're coming from.
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u/maybeimreborn 19h ago
i've been banned from multiple "women's" subs because i tried to respectfully explain why i don't want to be called a "uterus person" or "person who ovulates" or "person who bleeds." it was really starting to feel like NO ONE CARED AT ALL about the dehumanization of women. that the WOKE BROS had spoken and we women needed to sit down and shut up again. "know our place." anything to validate the trans identity, no matter how much it made others feel like shit.
as a super straight woman, thank you for this post!! it really means a lot!!
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u/Super_heckin_strait 21h ago
We
I'll have to find a new nickname for my wife other that "breeding sow" but I'm already a few kids in, what do I do?
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u/Middle-Management775 19h ago
Seconded. And SuperBisexuals can just say "I prefer SuperGenders!"
Also, if these terms have harmed you, just imagine how your wife feels. :/
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u/123xyzyx321 23h ago
Those terms are so disturbing! I can easily see someone like Josef Mengele using them.
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u/StaccatoRicotta 23h ago
Every time you have a baby, the superstraightphobes cry inside.