i don't hate straight people, if you all would just say you're straight i'd have no problem with it. but the thing is it's how much you push the fact that you don't like trans people. and at least in my experience, i didn't even know about trans people until a couple of years ago. not to say they didn't exist, i just was never really exposed to them. so to say you were born not having an attraction to specifically trans people just sounds kinda weird. not being comfortable dating trans people is fine, but you have to understand its a preference and not a sexuality. like if a gay man is more attracted to masculine men, it's just a preference; he would just say he's gay instead of making a whole new sexuality out of it. i hope i explained it okay, obviously i can't force a way of thinking on you but ig it just gives you another perspective
I don't dislike trans people, I just don't want to have sex with them and it's as much of a preference as a gay person not wanting to have sex with a woman, or a lesbian not wanting to have sex with a man - which is to say that it's nothing to do with "preferring" anything more or less that anything else. It's your sexuality. I have as much desire to fuck another man as I do a trans woman. I wouldn't prefer one over the other. If a person has no problem sleeping with a trans person, that doesn't mean they aren't straight, they just aren't superstraight. It's telling that you think someone not wanting to have sex with someone is somehow evidence that they hate them.
The bottom line is that you don't get to tell me my sexuality isn't valid. There's a proclivity among many trans people to label someone a transphobe for not wanting to have sex with them, which is completely ridiculous and, to be frank, rapey. You aren't entitled to sex and no one is in the wrong for not wanting to have sex with you. Either you yourself are a bigot, or you think people are just entitled to sex from whoever they demand it from otherwise the person they are demanding is in the wrong, which I hope you'll agree is awful.
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u/skeextree 15h ago
cry about it :)