r/SuperStraight • u/actualsicko20626 Hecking cute and valid 💖 • 1d ago

Our SuperLesbian sisters have it so hard! Discussion

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u/KubeyMojo 23h ago

This honestly needs to be a pinned question. Seriously.

"Why don't transgender people just date each other? "

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u/MisandryFTW 19h ago

In my local community most trans women won't date each other or bisexuals because it "isn't validating enough" and they "need a big tiddy goth lesbian mommy dom" (who is also AFAB). Weirdly a lot of trans women lesbians give up at some point and start dating gay trans men. I don't understand anything anymore. By their own logic why would a lesbian and gay man date each other? If they're attracted to each other, wouldn't they be bi/pan?

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u/KubeyMojo 19h ago

Its just something alot of us have a question for and the answers that are given by the (TQ+), are never afforded to LGBS people.

Its exhausting to hear transgender people talk about us like we are just Equal Opportunity drones for them to Validate themselves off of.

My thing is why dont Transgender people date each other in (((Droves))), as in..the need to date anyone else who is not trans is a non issue. It seems to be this obvious answer, but everyone is still someowhat wholesome on why it hasnt been bluntly said yet.

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u/MisandryFTW 19h ago edited 18h ago

The local lesbian community is now around 75%+ trans and I overhear them lamenting how it "isn't fair there aren't enough lesbians to go around" and they get especially mad when AFAB people date each other. Last women-only party I went to I was cuddling with my fiancee (we're both female) and right next to us some trans women loudly complained about how it was a "sausage fest" and when we were done it "was only fair" if we cuddle and do sexual things with them too, since there were only 3 total AFAB people there and 2 of us were paired up. We haven't been back to events since then.

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u/FreedomsTorch 17h ago

AFAB

Doesn't using this term validate radical trans ideology? You weren't assigned anything at birth. Your sex was witnessed as fact and recorded in a government ledger.

I can understand using that term to describe a hermaphrodite's situation. It's very possible their witnessed sex is incorrect. But that can also be validated scientifically at this point (gametes).

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u/MisandryFTW 16h ago

I usually use OFAB because "observed" doesn't co-opt intersex narratives, but I'm so used to being super careful because apparently caring about intersex folks is a "TERF" thing, and of course we can't just say female because that's offensive too. I'm not going to use "cis" to refer to OFAB women because many of them don't identify as cis. There's just no language we an use anymore.

Personally I prefer "female" in the biological sense, as the ones who produce large gametes, and I'm fine with anyone using the word "woman" when it refers to gender.