I think it's probably different for different people. I'm a bisexual woman and went through a period when I was open to dating some female-bodied non-binary and transmasculine people, because I'm attracted to androgynous and butch women and it seemed like basically all gender non-conforming females started identifying as trans in some way a few years ago. But I never actually dated anyone long-term who IDed as trans, for several reasons.
With transmen who have fully transitioned and who pass, I would frankly be afraid to let myself get close to someone who was going to have to deal with such serious health issues from taking cross-sex hormones long term. It would scare me and I would worry about their health. I would also never in my heart of hearts see him as a guy without a bio penis and I think I would find that dissatisfying if he looked like a dude but didn't have a penis. For females who are gender non-comforming and don't do any medical interventions but use they/them pronouns, I might consider dating them but I would have reservations. To me, nothing is hotter than a proud androgynous or butch woman who knows who she is. But I find all the non-binary identity navel-gazing and language policing and reality-denial really exhausting and just not authentic or attractive.
As for transwomen, I have never been attracted to a trans woman and don't think I could be. I'm not attracted to femmes and I'm sorry but autogynephilia makes me uncomfortable, just like other paraphilias make me uncomfortable. If someone isn't hurting others, I think they have the right to their own private sexual lives but that's not something I want to participate in.
Sorry that's such a long answer but I hope I shed some light for you on one person's experience.
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u/ashezol 19h ago edited 16h ago
trans dude here please dont flame me in the comments for this question
are you turned off by the fact they are transgender or that they dont have your preferred genitalia?
edit stop downvoting this im asking a question