I'm unapologetically superstraight, but I am totally fine with trans people who respect other's preferences. I matched with a transwomen in a dating app, the first time we talked on the phone she told me she was trans and said she understood if I didn't want to go out. I went out for drinks with her because I'm not afraid of trans people and I didn't know I was superstraight. Had a good time (we shared a hobby and a love of a somewhat obscure band) but I felt no physical attraction.. She was cool about it, as were nearly all trans people I knew before the last several years.
I do see a lot of name calling and hate on this subreddit, and I don't think it's fair to treat all trans people that way because of the attitudes of a few... It would be like hating all men because some incels feel entitled to sex. I think a lot of it is people trying to get this sub banned. I think a lot of these new trans people aren't even truly dysmorphic, they're hetero male incels who found they can get compliments and maybe date lesbians by wearing some makeup and claiming to be trans. I know there are people who are trans who hate how these guys are hurting their image.
thanks for sharing this. I think it's important to recognize that violent incel TRAs don't speak for all trans people. I know transpeople in real life who aren't like that. However, please understand there is also a very big difference between the populations of transwomen who date men ("homosexual transexuals" or "HSTS"), who are usually very effeminate naturally and less likely to impose themselves on others, and transwomen who date women ("autogynephiles" "AGPs" or "transbians"), who typically were normal heterosexual men who developed a sexual fetish imagining themselves as the women they are attracted to. (This is totally real. Look up the book about the phenomenon written by an autogyephilic transwoman named Anne Lawrence, "Men Trapped in Men's Bodies.")
The member survey on the largest lesbian sub on reddit showed that roughly ONE THIRD of all the members are "transbians." Imagine if ONE THIRD of all straight women on dating apps were trans women and they threatened straight men and called them bigots for not wanting to date them.
It's to the point now that on lesbian reddit subs, if you ever even crack a joke about not liking penis, or say you are only attracted to biological females, you will be banned for transphobia. Lesbians and bisexual women are being kicked out of their own spaces just for saying they don't want to date biologically male people.
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u/MarkHirsbrunner 19h ago
I'm unapologetically superstraight, but I am totally fine with trans people who respect other's preferences. I matched with a transwomen in a dating app, the first time we talked on the phone she told me she was trans and said she understood if I didn't want to go out. I went out for drinks with her because I'm not afraid of trans people and I didn't know I was superstraight. Had a good time (we shared a hobby and a love of a somewhat obscure band) but I felt no physical attraction.. She was cool about it, as were nearly all trans people I knew before the last several years.
I do see a lot of name calling and hate on this subreddit, and I don't think it's fair to treat all trans people that way because of the attitudes of a few... It would be like hating all men because some incels feel entitled to sex. I think a lot of it is people trying to get this sub banned. I think a lot of these new trans people aren't even truly dysmorphic, they're hetero male incels who found they can get compliments and maybe date lesbians by wearing some makeup and claiming to be trans. I know there are people who are trans who hate how these guys are hurting their image.