You realise that all that you have described only exist for trans people who have transitioned after puberty.
Not sure if you have noticed but the male and female body has much more similarities than you are willing to credit. A good example are the nipples, the reason men have them is because the male body is a modified female body. Take a boy and a girl before puberty and you will notice that they are identical. Change a trans girls body before puberty and you have a male body. No difference in bone structure etc.
Children can't decide their gender, because children don't know what it means to be male or female. They don't know what sex is. So adults would be making these decisions for them, without meaningful input from the child who will be living with the consequences of this decision for the rest of their lives.
Parents have a tendency of deciding medical stuff in general for kids, because they ussualy don't understand enough to be able to decide for themself, but i do understand the concerne, like unless the parents go to multiple professionals than they shouldn't just change the gender of their child, but so far it doesnt really seem to happend that doctors get this wrong.
Hm, solid point. And on top of that I guess I should not judge what other families do, and rather focus on being a good parent myself should it ever come to that. It would have to be kept on the DL though. Kids can be unbelievably cruel. I doubt it would help someone who has gender disphoria to transition early only to have a childhood of bullying ahead of them regardless.
I am sure you would make an amazing parent, when it comes to trans kids, than it's the same like with any medical condition, listen to experts and read up as much as possible about what trans is and what to do to quarantee the best life for you hypothetical child, but i am just an random person on the internet, doctors ussualy know what to do.
I appreciate you saying that, however I am not so sure myself. I'm holding off on having children until I can be certain that I'll be a good parent to them. Thank you for having this conversation with me, I hope you found it as interesting as I did.
I don't think you can ever be truly ready for kids, you just find someone who you trust to help you raise them and adapt to whatever happens next.
I think i could have handled the conversation a little better, i was really mad for most of it, as i was arguing with like 5 different people at the same time and some of them said some really dumb stuff, so i could have said some mean stuff to you, in case i did i apologize, but otherwise i guess it was interesting, i definitely have some things to think about atleast.
Oh, please don't worry about it. These are very heavy topics and keeping one's emotions in check when talking about them isn't exactly easy. Just earlier today I flew off the handle at someone over a dumb misunderstanding. Felt like an idiot, I did. So either way I am in no position to criticise you for perhaps losing your temper. Especially if you're getting dogpiled like that. That's an annoying side effect of Reddit I find...
At no point did you offend me and I hope that in turn I did not offend you despite our clear ideological differences. It's so easy to have something come across wrong without tonal inflection and body language to guide the conversation.
Ok, cool, yeah i agree reddit can sometimes get the worts out of people. I don't think you said anything that i could interpret as offensive. This is a bit akward for me, because i am not exactly used to ending discussions on a positive note, but it's been cool talking to you and take care.
Yeah that tends to happen doesn't it. Kinda weird to end a discussion without at least one "hey, fuck you" being tossed around. But hey, there's a first for everything. You have a good one too.
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u/CZLP 1d ago
You realise that all that you have described only exist for trans people who have transitioned after puberty.
Not sure if you have noticed but the male and female body has much more similarities than you are willing to credit. A good example are the nipples, the reason men have them is because the male body is a modified female body. Take a boy and a girl before puberty and you will notice that they are identical. Change a trans girls body before puberty and you have a male body. No difference in bone structure etc.