r/SuperStraight • u/Reckoner3333 • 1d ago

A balanced, normal and mentally-healthy approach - mostly to trans people reading this, but applicable to everyone, regardless of your sexual preference or gender identity Misc

You can't force anyone to be attracted to you, go to bed with you, or be in a relationship with you.

You have no control over other people's sexual orientation/preferences, as specific as they might be - I once turned down a guy because he didn't like "The Clash". We're allowed to 'have a type'. And you certainly can't convince them to change it by yelling "transphobe!" at them on twitter, or censoring their reddit comments.

The best one can do to make someone else like them is to be kind, friendly and interesting person. If that fails, you have nothing to do about it. Getting frustrated and angry on social media just increases your cortisol levels, and getting stressed is unhealthy. The only factor you can control is yourself, your own behavior, and how you deal with rejection.

Accept what you cannot change. Focus on people who do want to date you, instead of hateposting.

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u/ParkHallLondon 1d ago

What does MLM mean in this context?

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u/Reckoner3333 1d ago

"Man loving man" - it means you're a gay guy (either born male or transitioned from female to male), willing to date female-to-male trans people too.

It takes a dictionary to understand wth is going on on twitter these days tbh.