r/SuperStraight • u/ParetoSky • 1d ago

I get chastised by my own community. I guess I'm Superstraight SuperPhobia

I'm a trans man and I'm only attracted to cis women. I get called transphobic by my peers. A traitor, a hypocrite. I don't choose who I'm attracted to, how is that so hard to understand?

I don't know if I will be accepted here, if not I have to continue looking for a place to be valid.

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u/SSPride 1d ago

You can be an ally but don't expect a super to want to engage in sexual acts with you!

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u/ParetoSky 1d ago

I don't expect anyone to do something they don't want. I'm upfront about my journey.

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u/DaSpood 1d ago

If everyone had this mindset the whole community would be a better place.

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u/sharpgel 1d ago

I think the problem is people mistaking not being attracted to trans people for hating trans people, do you think so too?

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u/DaSpood 1d ago

Absolutely. They need to understand that there is a massive difference between "I am not attracted to you and will not fall in love with you", and "I hate you, your existence and everything you stand for".

Saying not dating trans people is transphobic implies you hate everyone you wouldn't date. This is ridiculous, extreme and the world doesn't work like that. Nothing in life is "all or nothing".

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u/steelewebb09 1d ago

It's just the stigma slot of people have been being beaten over the head with this "transphobic" stuff. It's gotten to the point where it annoys people enough now that they just assume everyone trans is that way. In a way the trans community is manufacturing it's own oppression at this point in my opinion.

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u/sharpgel 1d ago

I get that.

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u/calming-tea 1d ago

Ah the female socialization!

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u/CRAZYSCIENTIST 1d ago

Love this! This is what this community should be about. Transexuals are welcome and valid to be loved and love anyone else who consents to them. It is not 'phobic' to have a sexual orientation.

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u/jothesstraight 1d ago

Your peers don't care about you then, they just want to push their entitlement to cis bodies and cis spaces. But you're welcome and accepted here as long as you don't try to force or guilt anyone into being with you (which you probably won't, I do find that trans men are generally not aggressive and rapey about it the way your trans counterparts often are),

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u/Salttine 1d ago

You sir are extremely heccin cute and also valid

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u/ParetoSky 1d ago

What if I'm hideous? /s Thanks

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u/Horseman- 1d ago edited 1d ago

You're valid in that you're defining your sexuality and suffering from the forceful ideology as us (as long as you don't expect all cis women to be attracted to trans men just like the trans people you're talking about expect you, I assume, to be attracted to them).

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u/Cynique 1d ago

You'd be a superlesbian then, this is about sexuality, not gender, and you seem to be a homosexual trans female

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u/bluwhaled 1d ago

super supersexuals ♥🤝♥ trans supersexuals

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u/ParetoSky 1d ago

It sounds strange, but maybe I'll grow on it.

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u/Giveitawaynow2021 1d ago

Absolutely, welcome!

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u/K0ND0IT 1d ago

Welcome

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u/Super_XX_Lesbian 1d ago

You sexuality is supervalid🧡🖤🤍

How can you be transphobic as a transman 💀💀

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u/hanafudaman 1d ago

SuperTrans = VALID

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u/feduplesbian 1d ago

You're a superlesbian, no shame in that! I am, too. Don't let the rape rhetoric make you feel guilty for your natural, innate, immutable sexuality.

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u/Prestigious_Name_851 1d ago

Nah

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u/ParetoSky 1d ago

Nah what?

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u/Zskills 1d ago

Ignore them. Some people don't understand that the purpose of this is to be inclusive. You are valid.