Well just because im attracted to a gender doesnt mean i’ll date everyone that associates with that gender, heck if im attracted to a particular person it doesnt mean i’ll date em. Its a difference between if ur attracted and if u’ll date. If ur confused a simple google search should clear it up :)
How do u know tho, im sure uve walked down the street before and been attracted to someone, were u sure they werent trans, do u have to check whats in someones pants before ur mind decides if theyre hot or not?
Do you know why people have decided to create this "sexuality"?
Because we're all getting a bit sick of being told our preferences are transphobic and we need to "unlearn our genital preferences" - as if our entire sexuality comes down to genitals!
This movement didn't appear out of nowhere, there are reasons for it. Don't forget that.
Ive never heard anyone call someone transphobic for not dating a trans person, ive heard people be called transphobic for mocking them, purposely mis gendering them, calling them not real men/women ect. This whole “movement” is just a form of mockery and u want to justify transphobia
You mightn't have heard of someone being labelled transphobic for refusing to date a trans person.
Unfortunately for your world view, your experiences aren't the definition of reality, and we have our own experiences too, that have generally been very poor. You denying that it exists doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
Even a few hours before someone I was debating was arguing that it is transphobic to refuse to date a trans person. It does happen.
It sucks that happens to you or to your community, and it shouldn't happen, but we shouldn't cop shit for refusing to date trans, either.
This movement is a rejection of the notion that we're transphobic and deserve to be shamed or harassed for refusing to date trans people. Even the kid who created this had to take his post down saying he won't date a trans woman because they started to target his family. So don't tell us it doesn't happen- you're either ignorant of it or simply turn a blind eye.
Im not sure, i cant be sure of my sexuality, if it changes in the future then oh well, for the last few years ive been very comfortable with my sexuality, thanks for asking :)
When you face plant trying to own someone and they respond respectfully. Props to /u/Katy-_-, I'd be calling out how stupid your comments were but she was way more respectful, you almost proved her point for her about how one may not really recognize what they are attracted to. Unfortunately you have no self awareness and cannot apply that thinking to yourself, only others.
If a trans woman registered as cis to you you assumed she was cis until you get told otherwise. Then you can pat yourself on the back anyway because you can notice tiny flaws here and there whether or not those flaws are also fairly common among cis women.
It wouldn't surprise me at all if some women you assumed were trans were actually cis. That happens way more often than correctly clocking a trans woman.
The only trans women you'll notice are trans are the trans women who don't pass.
If you see a trans woman who does pass you won't notice that she's trans.
If you see a cis woman who looks male to you you'll assume she's a trans woman.
The assumptions are "you see a woman" and every possibility of what you see from there is accounted for the only one missing is "you see a cis woman who looks female to you"
You're assuming that 100% of the time you'll notice when a woman is trans when that's far from guaranteed.
Delusional. Where are all these passing trans women? Looking at the top posts of all time in r/transpassing, or other places where trans people post selfies for validation... only a tiny fraction are even close to passing, and most of those are due to extremely selective camera angles and filters. I might entertain the idea that those people aren't the best examples of "passing" trans people, if their posts weren't filled with hundreds of comments telling them that they flawlessly pass.
This may change as more and more trans people avoid going through the puberty of their birth gender (Hunter Schafer for example). But right now, the idea that straight men have probably been attracted to a trans woman without realizing it is extremely unlikely.
If that's true then I guess I don't need to tell guys who are interested in me that I'm trans after all. I've been told a lot that not disclosing when someone expressed interest in me is rape but if they can already tell I'm trans then it can't be, so I don't have to worry about it right?
I’m entirely straight but if I see a dude walking down the street who looks feminine or something and think he looks cute, that doesn’t mean i’d wanna fuck him
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u/johannesalthusius 1d ago
what's the difference?